TheSilentType Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 I've heard many people tell me that getting a girl is a numbers game. Like if you ask 20 girls one is bound to say yes lol But how the heck do you ask so many girls? Are you supposed to just randomly approach girls in public places and ask them out? Most of the time they seem busy with what they are doing and are not really acknowledging you or anything. All you guys who say its a numbers game, how do you do it? I can't imagine that even in half these cases the woman had acknowledged you in any way. What are you saying to these ladies when you cold approach them like that?
Jilly Bean Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 I think it means that you have to date a lot of people in your LIFETIME to find one good one. SERIALLY. SERIOUSLY. Doesn't mean you need to date 100 at a time. lol
porter218 Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 My brother does this a lot. I watched him in action at a wedding last weekend. He just went up to the prettiest girl in the room(not before he bet my H and everyone else $50 that he would get a kiss by the end of the evening) and said he really thought she was beautiful and asked for a dance. He hardly ever gets turned down, I guess he is just smooth about it. He also went to the beach the week prior with my parents and had a date with a different girl every night he was there. He claims that the more women he asks out the higher the chance are that he will meet mrs. right...but then I wonder if mrs. right would want him if she knew he was on a date with mrs wrong the night before:confused:.
loveinlife Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 Hi TheSilent, I heard its a number thing too, but im that good at it LOL I think it means that you have to date a lot of people in your LIFETIME to find one good one. SERIALLY. SERIOUSLY. Doesn't mean you need to date 100 at a time. lol so true Jilly. My brother does this a lot. I watched him in action at a wedding last weekend. He just went up to the prettiest girl in the room(not before he bet my H and everyone else $50 that he would get a kiss by the end of the evening) and said he really thought she was beautiful and asked for a dance. He hardly ever gets turned down, I guess he is just smooth about it. He also went to the beach the week prior with my parents and had a date with a different girl every night he was there. He claims that the more women he asks out the higher the chance are that he will meet mrs. right...but then I wonder if mrs. right would want him if she knew he was on a date with mrs wrong the night before:confused:. I admire your bro. We can be good friends. hehe
xpaperxcutx Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 Wow... gosh if I was heartless and detached I would also want to date a different guy every day of the week.
pandagirl Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 I actually don't think dating is necessarily a numbers game! I think dating a LOT can put you in the wrong frame of mind of thinking there's always something "better" out there (which, in some cases, may be true), creating desires and expectations. Or it just becomes habit of just going from date to date, without really focusing on what you *really* want. Do I sound self-helpy? haha. These days I've been brushing up on my Buddhism and focusing on inner peace, mindfulness and releasing my attachments. BUT I DIGRESS. Yes, you have to go through some people to discover what you want out of a relationship, but sometimes you don't. The love you take is equal to the love you make!
Trialbyfire Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 You can play the numbers game or you can take a more discerning approach. The latter approach means that you find a place/site/location where there's more women available and mentally filter out the ones that don't meet your standards. It also means that you have to be patient, in cultivating a connection with someone of interest. As for the cold approach, it most definitely doesn't work with someone like myself who's on the extreme side of cautious. It may work for other women though. It's personality reliant.
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