CHANTRESS Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 What is it EXACTLY that you miss about your ex...that you don't think you can get from someone else?? Is it the way they make you feel? The way they smell? The way they look?? What exactly? Be specific.
Peter_pan Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 her voice, appearance, smile, touch, smell, jokes, feet, nose.
foxh1234 Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 What is it EXACTLY that you miss about your ex...that you don't think you can get from someone else?? Is it the way they make you feel? The way they smell? The way they look?? What exactly? Be specific. I miss how much she loved to hold and kiss me. We would sit and watch tv and just hold and kiss for hours. This was after being together for 6-7 years. She always wanted to touch me, hold my hand, touch my leg, lay her head on my chest, whatever. I also miss the way she looked when she sleptand I miss holding her in bed. This is making me sad so I'm stopping.
justaman99 Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 Hmmm. I miss the indescribable connection we had. It wasn't her smell, her feet, her nose, or some mole. It was just being in each others presence. That sense of comfort when she was around. It was all I needed. -Just
sedgwick Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 I miss our conversations. I miss the sex, of course. I miss his smile, the way he came in and lay his head in my lap when he came home from tour, hearing him play music. I really miss going to his shows and seeing his friends, who were great. I miss his crazy plaid suits and fedoras. 13 months later, I still miss him with all my heart, and I can't even imagine being with anyone else.
Ingenue Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 I also miss that sense of connection with my ex. It's difficult to identify what specifically it is that made the connection, but it was there. We liked the same things, were annoyed at the same things but also differed along other dimensions. Despite those differences, we just clicked. We were both independent, but somehow complemented each other's strengths and weaknesses. I always thought that I would grow old with him. I guess if I had to identify something I miss the most, it would be his dorkiness. I loved his dorkiness. I think I'm a bit like foxh1234 and getting sad as I traipse down memory lane. Blah.
ioncebelieved Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 Everything but her lies and confused mind!!!!
Lizzie60 Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 What is it EXACTLY that you miss about your ex...that you don't think you can get from someone else?? Is it the way they make you feel? The way they smell? The way they look?? What exactly? Be specific. I don't really miss him.. but I am not sure I will ever meet someone like him.. What I liked about him: he was intelligent he was sweet he was incredibly generous with me he was always so clean and smelling good he was a true gentleman he was a rich, successful businessman and very popular and respected in the community he is still all those things..
beautifullove Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 is the connection I THOUGHT we had. I wonder how real it was based on what he did. We laughed a lot, we would sing together, read together, walk and talk, and make lurve. I wonder how real it was, and I'm still p****d.
Crestfallen_KH Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 I was never connected to anyone the way I was with my ex-husband. He was my best friend, the best friend I'd ever had. We were connected on several levels. I couldn't even list them all. I just know I'll never find another Red Zinfandel, IPA, Adult Swim, crispy chile relleno, rainy day, video-game loving guy who would think nothing of hopping on a plane to fly across the country to see Tom Waits perform one show again. That's the kind of stuff I miss. I try to console myself with the knowledge that I'll get to be excited about NEW things, conversations and connections with someone else, but it's hard sometimes. When you're just THAT compatible and THAT connected, it's hard to imagine you can ever have it with anyone else. Or that he'd ever leave you for another woman.
sultry33 Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 I miss the connection we had like he knew me inside out and me him.. he would laugh when we both reached for the same thing or said the same.. i miss the calls.. the way he could turn my tummy to butterflies from one look his school boy nervous laugh.. his smell.. strength.. his kiss.. his face.. i used to play with his stubble lol think it drove him nuts but he let me do it anyway;) i miss all of him.. and like fox said.. its making me sad:love:
pr-girl Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 I miss the way he'd call just to see how my day was. I miss the way he would say, "Yeah... maaaaaaybe you're right," 'cause he knew I was. I miss the way his skin smelled and how soft it was. I miss his long hair and how he allowed it to fall out of a ponytail just so he could put it behind his ears. I miss when he'd call me "baby doll." I miss my best friend. I miss the man I thought he was. I miss his emails of concern when I was having a rough day. I miss his texts that read, "Hey, girl. Just letting you know I'm thinking about you." I miss his smile. I miss his spirit. I miss his music. I miss HIM.
motive2002 Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 I miss the little texts throughout the day, and the phone calls. We could talk on the phone for hours it seems, and it never really got old. Even after we split we had a couple marathon sessions on the phone. Oh and the sex was just friggin amazing. That's going to be very difficult to replace, if even possible to replace at all.
suzie q Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 i miss the way he called me lady. i miss the silly look he'd give me across the room when we were out that let me know he wanted me. i miss the sex. i miss his hands. i miss how hard he used to work. i miss how strong he was. i miss his cooking. i miss the way he'd say "you're okie dokie" when i'd do something for him. i miss his smile. i miss the way he teased me. i miss the way he always tried to sneak a peek when i was changing. i miss watching tv in bed. i miss the look he'd give me when he was proud of me. really, i miss everthing.
Author CHANTRESS Posted August 6, 2008 Author Posted August 6, 2008 I think it's IMPORTANT to stress................if a breakup didn't occur it would be impossible to realize OR appreciate what EXACTLY you DO miss about the other person............so sometimes it's good to know these things. Even if it hurts for a litle while.
tealeafbud Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 I'm sorry, but I really don't want to think about it. My first response though is that I don't miss diddly squat. I'll say one thing though. I'll miss how she said she loved my scar.
kizik Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 I'm sorry, but I really don't want to think about it. My first response though is that I don't miss diddly squat. I'll say one thing though. I'll miss how she said she loved my scar. Thoughts pop in each day. Little moments, gestures and habits. But like TLB, I prefer not to intentionally think about them. I would encourage everyone to avoid living in the past as much as possible.
Trialbyfire Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 The mind plays tricks on you. It always forgets the bad things and remembers the good things, putting a soft, rosy glow over the memories. I also encourage people to not live in the past. It's counter-productive to your ability to heal and move on.
nopainnogain Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 I miss the person i thought she was. Same here:cool:
nopainnogain Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 Thoughts pop in each day. Little moments, gestures and habits. But like TLB, I prefer not to intentionally think about them. I would encourage everyone to avoid living in the past as much as possible. I like this saying "you got one foot in yesterday,one foot in tomorrow. Which gives you a perfect oppurtunity to crap on today"
0hpenelope Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 I'm sorry, but I really don't want to think about it. My first response though is that I don't miss diddly squat. I'll say one thing though. I'll miss how she said she loved my scar. Thoughts pop in each day. Little moments, gestures and habits. But like TLB, I prefer not to intentionally think about them. I would encourage everyone to avoid living in the past as much as possible. The mind plays tricks on you. It always forgets the bad things and remembers the good things, putting a soft, rosy glow over the memories. I also encourage people to not live in the past. It's counter-productive to your ability to heal and move on. Echoing these wonderful LS users' sentiments. Try your best to move way from those wonderful memories. I wasn't ready to, but I countered such thoughts with sheer force in the past few weeks. I wasn't ready to, but f**k I wanted it badly enough for myself to make it happen. When I remember things... I pick up my Nintendo DS and play. Or my Ochem book and review. Things like that. The past is the past is the past.
kizik Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 I like this saying "you got one foot in yesterday,one foot in tomorrow. Which gives you a perfect oppurtunity to crap on today" Brilliant! Thanks NPNG.
MayraPelayo Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 I miss the way he would look deep into my soul I miss his body I miss his touch The way he smelled my hair and would stare at me while I was putting my makeup on. The way he would compliment me I miss Him as a human being I miss his hands lips eyes hair I miss him being there when i was feeling blue I miss him telling me he yearns for me in every way I miss the way he laughed the way he mocked my laugh. I miss the way he would tell me how much he loved me.
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