ashley_lopez96 Posted August 5, 2008 Posted August 5, 2008 well, im 15 years old and i cant stop cheating on my boyfriends i try so hard not to.. and im scared because i found the right guy but im always talking to this dude like im single and i want to stop!! SOMEONE HELP ME!!!
Bryanp Posted August 5, 2008 Posted August 5, 2008 When this happens you might want to imagine how you would feel if he was doing to you what you are doing to him?
Author ashley_lopez96 Posted August 5, 2008 Author Posted August 5, 2008 thats true i try so hard to try not sending him pictures of me but he always says something nice that i send him the pictures
Lizzie60 Posted August 5, 2008 Posted August 5, 2008 well, im 15 years old and i cant stop cheating on my boyfriends i try so hard not to.. and im scared because i found the right guy but im always talking to this dude like im single and i want to stop!! SOMEONE HELP ME!!! I know... it IS scary... Maybe you should try harder trying to try to stop.. Just one advice : JUST STOP!!!
Citizen Erased Posted August 5, 2008 Posted August 5, 2008 You could try therapy. Or acting your age...not "dating" anyone when you have zero self control...
Trialbyfire Posted August 5, 2008 Posted August 5, 2008 Do you have impulse control issues? For example, if there's a gallon of ice cream of the flavour you absolutely adore, do you eat the entire gallon?
Touche Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 well, im 15 years old and i cant stop cheating on my boyfriends i try so hard not to.. and im scared because i found the right guy but im always talking to this dude like im single and i want to stop!! SOMEONE HELP ME!!! Ashley, don't worry ok? You're fine. You're only 15 and this is normal. It's only when you're much, much older that you need to worry about this. If you start to have sex for example for money or something like that, THEN you need to start to worry about being a whore. But for now, you're just a normal teenager. Just don't have sex with many guys or you'll grow up to be a whore and a slut. And you sound too classy for that. You don't want to have a man never want to marry you do you? You don't want to have children out of wedlock do you? No. I didn't think so. You sound too classy for that. Just get yourself under control. You'll be ok. It's not too late for you, dear.
JooSee Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 well, im 15 years old and i cant stop cheating on my boyfriends i try so hard not to.. and im scared because i found the right guy but im always talking to this dude like im single and i want to stop!! SOMEONE HELP ME!!! Hi Ashley. Do you tell your boyfriends after you cheat on them? Maybe you should consider letting your boyfriend know that you dont want things to be too serious right now. When you find the right one, you won't want to cheat, so perhaps you just haven't met that one guy who really makes you feel good about yourself. I used to do what you are doing, and I'm in my thirties . It was always so weird that I'd flirt with other guys, and not let them know i had a boyfriend. Why did I do that??? I totally liked the attention. you ARE young, so dont be too hard on yourself. I've cheated on tons of guys when I was 18-21, and guys cheated on me too. The best thing to do, in my opinion, is just just try and be honest with everyone, even if it hurts. People cheat...at 15, and 55 so its not something new here, but honesty is the hardest part. Good luck. And oh....you are definately NOT a whore.
Lizzie60 Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 When people become 'obsessed' with someone.. they really look like a miserable loser.. and I'm sure you don't want to look like one.. right? it's not good for your blood pressure either..
Trialbyfire Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 I don't agree that this is normal behaviour for teenage girls although it does happen, same as with adults. I'm not convinced that once a pattern of behaviour is set at this age, that it won't continue throughout adult years.
Lovelybird Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 ashley_lopez96 I think many youth has the same problem as yours. when you are in this age span, you aren't very sure about own identity, so you seek out for others' validation. If you aren't sure about yourself, about who you are, you easily rely on others' opinion about you. If a person express he likes you, then you tend to do anything for him to keep that validation going on. It is not good. It puts you in a very vulnerable position, and continue doing this would make you an empty shell. you will find out when they offer compliments the same time they ask you for something you shouldn't or cannot offer. Nobody can give you your values, It seems to me that you become compulsive when someone show interests in you. You don't have responsibility to do anything for them. Your value is not determined by others' opinions, your value only is determined by God. Please find value and strength in God and yourself, I think everything would be fine. I know several good books, talk about confidence or identity, if you have time, please read them, they would enrich and change your life for betterness. if you aren't interested in reading, they have CDs for same content. How to Succeed at Being Yourself: Finding the Confidence to Fulfill Your Destiny by Joyce Meyer Battlefield of the Mind for Teens: Winning the Battle in Your Mind by Joyce Meyer and Todd Hafer Teenagers Are People Too! by Joyce Meyer
JooSee Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 I don't agree that this is normal behaviour for teenage girls although it does happen, same as with adults. I'm not convinced that once a pattern of behaviour is set at this age, that it won't continue throughout adult years. We dont even know what she meant by "cheating". Is she sleeping around? Or is she just flirting with other boys. all she mentioned was sending a boy a photo. I think its normal for 15 year olds to have boyfriends, and YES many are having sex. What is normal behavior for a teenager anyway? I'm not convinced that the behavior will continue as an adult. It may or may not...just depends on how the person grows and matures.
Touche Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 Ashley, you've gotten some great advice here. Don't get obsessed with any one guy. Until you find the right man for you, you will look like a loser if you hang on to just one. One who is wrong for you. So just be casual until then. But don't have sex with just anyone. Or even a few. Because if you do, you'll never feel good about yourself. You'll be nothing more than just a slut. And you're too young to be labeled that way. You'll never feel good about yourself if you don't hold out for the right one.
Throne Of Lies Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 Bird you are like a Librarian! It is impressive. I'm a little suprised that you have had heaps of boyfriends to cheat on at 15, really. Sort of young to be in serious relationships- for this exact reason. I think the mistake you are making here isn't cheating so much as it is getting involved like this and thereby limiting your ability to flirt. I'm going to give you a golden rule though- when in doubt, don't put out. Hey, I just made that up, and it rhymes! High five? Anyone?
Lovelybird Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 Bird you are like a Librarian! It is impressive. hehe, thanks These sources I can put trust in, because they've helped me a lot. The author had many issues most people can relate, and most precious thing is that she overcomed those issues, and can help others to overcome
porter218 Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 Ashley, are you having sex with any of these guys?? If the answer is no then I wouldn't be too stressed out about it if I were you.
Lishy Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 I have one word of advice ......... Get his his head before you get in his bed!
Author ashley_lopez96 Posted August 6, 2008 Author Posted August 6, 2008 thanx you i feel better about myself
Author ashley_lopez96 Posted August 7, 2008 Author Posted August 7, 2008 well i really like him and maybe even love him i just want to knowif flirting is okay when ur with someone
whichwayisup Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 You shouldn't flirt with another guy if you have a boyfriend. Flirting can lead to other things. I'm not sure what kind of flirting you're talking about but if it's what I'm thinking, then it isn't really fair to your bf. Imagine him flirting with another girl and you found out? Wouldn't you be hurt? Especially if he told you he loved you?
Untouchable_Fire Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 thats true i try so hard to try not sending him pictures of me but he always says something nice that i send him the pictures Your looking for attention. You will continue to cheat or at the very minimum have serious relationship issues as long as you rely on boys for your self esteem. Who cares if he says something nice when you send him a picture. You already know your attractive! Plus you have all kinds of other stuff good about you as well. Right?
Riley Freeman Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 im quite speechless at this thread i cheat on my man but i love him? you just need to leave him, thats all...........beacuse its no point to be in a relationship if your not faithful and no disrespect too you
Author ashley_lopez96 Posted August 8, 2008 Author Posted August 8, 2008 very true but ima try to stop flirting with guys and live happy with my bf:love:
jon01 Posted August 8, 2008 Posted August 8, 2008 Don't worry about it! You're only 15, and you shouldn't even be in a serious relationship. Go out with both boys and have fun and don't be too hard on yourself. When you turn 18, then you can start getting more serious and worrying about all this. For now, just enjoy yourself and have fun! Woo hoo!
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