maynicholas Posted August 5, 2008 Posted August 5, 2008 So my new guy said to me last night that he loves how vulnerable I am with him. What does that mean exactly?
Tyra Posted August 5, 2008 Posted August 5, 2008 He probably means he loves when you feel depressed or whatever,so that he can console you.Or maybe when your vulnerable, you probably aren't fussy or mean.Not saying that you are.
Author maynicholas Posted August 5, 2008 Author Posted August 5, 2008 Never been depressed around him- I'm a terribly happy person. He said it while we were talking about the state of our relationship. He was saying how wonderful he thinks I am and has pointing out all the reasons he likes me so much. He then said how we haven't really known each other for that long and I chimed in about how it feels at though we have known each other forever. He said that I had just showed my cards. Then he said that he loved how vulnerable I am with him. So now what does that mean?
Mahatma Posted August 5, 2008 Posted August 5, 2008 Never been depressed around him- I'm a terribly happy person. He said it while we were talking about the state of our relationship. He was saying how wonderful he thinks I am and has pointing out all the reasons he likes me so much. He then said how we haven't really known each other for that long and I chimed in about how it feels at though we have known each other forever. He said that I had just showed my cards. Then he said that he loved how vulnerable I am with him. So now what does that mean? Ok, this could be a huge red flag too, but I'll attempt to explain that in a guy's perspective. When a girl lets her self be completely vulnerable to you, it shows you she is trusting you. Like if she spends the night with you, she is completely vulnerable to you. I would NEVER use that word to describe it though, so you might want to be weary about that haha. I just personally think it feels good when someone puts a lot of trust into you, so maybe (hopefully) thats what he meant.
Author maynicholas Posted August 5, 2008 Author Posted August 5, 2008 Thanks for the replies so far. Any other thoughts?
beachbaby Posted August 5, 2008 Posted August 5, 2008 Vulnerable by Websters means " susceptible to attack or damage". Be careful...if you really do care for him...he must see it.
Lucky555 Posted August 5, 2008 Posted August 5, 2008 I think he means you don't have a wall up. He likes that your opening yourself up to him. Him seeing this can be good but horrible if he uses it against you. Such as him knowing your vulnerable and then mentions how attractive another girl is right in front of you...he knows he can hurt you if your vulnerable. He also can see that he has got you. I f he is abusive then he will use this as a way to manipulate you. You can be vulnerable and smart at the same time though. Just hold your own and don't forget who you are. If hes a good guy then this will be good as it means that maybe hes is the right guy for you. Sometimes also it can be seen as your easy and not a challenge to him. I don't know how long you have been together. It varies in relationship to relationship and the type of guy he is.
Author maynicholas Posted August 5, 2008 Author Posted August 5, 2008 My gut tells me that he won't take advantage of it. My gut also tells me he is a really good guy- however my over active analytical brain tells me he has to be too good to be true. I guess only time will tell...
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