loveinlife Posted August 5, 2008 Posted August 5, 2008 she is flirtatious, we are not exclusive, she isn't ready for a relationship, she's out of a 7 year relationship, i feel like a rebound, just someone to be with. anyone going through something similar? I've been with her for about 4 months now. having some trust issues.
roghornio Posted August 5, 2008 Posted August 5, 2008 4 months in... and your not exclusive... that's a relativly long time i'd say? What's the deal - how often do you see each other, what's the general vibe? have you talked about where it's going?
justaman99 Posted August 6, 2008 Posted August 6, 2008 she is flirtatious, we are not exclusive, she isn't ready for a relationship, she's out of a 7 year relationship, i feel like a rebound, just someone to be with. anyone going through something similar? I've been with her for about 4 months now. having some trust issues. How much time since you started dating and she broke up with her 7 year?
Author loveinlife Posted August 6, 2008 Author Posted August 6, 2008 4 months in... and your not exclusive... that's a relativly long time i'd say? What's the deal - how often do you see each other, what's the general vibe? have you talked about where it's going? Yeah its been four months and still not exclusive. I agree it is a long time. We see each other once a week, we live an hour away from each other. She does most of the driving. Its not that i don't want to visit her but she prefers it this way. I know a few of her friends. The general vibe is usually 90% good. seems like she enjoys being with me and stay over the night, sometimes 2days, on my days off. I've spoken to her about where its going. It was initially intimately dating then she said i dunno after we got into an arguement. But we do talk everyday for about 3 hours on aim and still want to hang out. Communication is clear. This is where i feel like a rebound. Thanks for asking. How much time since you started dating and she broke up with her 7 year? Hi Just Good question. i knew her a lil over two weeks before they broke up and started dating 2 weeks after. It went naturally and we clicked. Now that its been so long, im not sure where its going to go.
Author loveinlife Posted August 6, 2008 Author Posted August 6, 2008 yes you are a rebound Yeah, there is a possibility. I shouldn't date these girls with these baggages anymore. This is the second time.. I need to be aware of their circumstances.
Author loveinlife Posted August 7, 2008 Author Posted August 7, 2008 I guess better to know now than later and be prepared.
justaman99 Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 Definite rebound. She isn't used to not having a guy around so you fill that void. She isn't over her ex so you're just a play pal. i.e. nothing serious. Just a man that gives her the attention she needs and misses from her ex. Sucks for you. Bail.
Author loveinlife Posted August 7, 2008 Author Posted August 7, 2008 Definite rebound. She isn't used to not having a guy around so you fill that void. She isn't over her ex so you're just a play pal. i.e. nothing serious. Just a man that gives her the attention she needs and misses from her ex. Sucks for you. Bail. Thanks Just, Its been awhile since i wanted to do that. Trying to outweigh the pros and cons. pros: sex, someone to be around, cuddle at night, do simple things just like a relationship. If i keep this, i know i need to not let it ruin my emotions... otherwise it is tiem to bail. cons: not serious, make believe that its something more if we continue(its like tricking myself that its more,love? but its not), not having her available as a regular gf)... hmm... what else do you guys think i can add on to these pros and cons from your experience? I think i want a serious relationship more than this... gonna think about it..
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