johnny1102 Posted August 5, 2008 Posted August 5, 2008 I have been reading threw the forums alot for the last few days. I have decided NC is the way for me. I wanted to know if i should tell her i want NC because at the moment i talk to her everyday and i cant help it. When ever she texts me i have to reply i dont want to but my heart makes me do it. i love this girl and she means the world to me and i dont want to lose her, but as i found out you can make someone love you if the dont. Should i tell her i want NC. Please help me
Riley Freeman Posted August 5, 2008 Posted August 5, 2008 I have been reading threw the forums alot for the last few days. I have decided NC is the way for me. I wanted to know if i should tell her i want NC because at the moment i talk to her everyday and i cant help it. When ever she texts me i have to reply i dont want to but my heart makes me do it. i love this girl and she means the world to me and i dont want to lose her, but as i found out you can make someone love you if the dont. Should i tell her i want NC. Please help me if your going to do NO CONTACT why would you CONTACT her? just do it and be done with it
tealeafbud Posted August 5, 2008 Posted August 5, 2008 just stop taking her calls, emails, texts, or whatever. Just do it. she'll get the hint sooner or later, unless she's a total idiot.
sultry33 Posted August 5, 2008 Posted August 5, 2008 i told my ex because i didnt want him to think i stopped loving him or wanting him.. it was really hard for me to go nc and just this week i slipped.. do what is best for you..
Author johnny1102 Posted August 5, 2008 Author Posted August 5, 2008 if your going to do NO CONTACT why would you CONTACT her? just do it and be done with it I got to go and get the rest of my stuff from the flat we had together. Its tomorrow just wanted to know if i should say anything.
Riley Freeman Posted August 5, 2008 Posted August 5, 2008 I got to go and get the rest of my stuff from the flat we had together. Its tomorrow just wanted to know if i should say anything. ok knock on the door, let yourself in gather your belongings and walk out and shut the door
Author johnny1102 Posted August 5, 2008 Author Posted August 5, 2008 ok then i will just go in get my stuff and leave wont say a word
sultry33 Posted August 5, 2008 Posted August 5, 2008 johnny why does she text you everyday if its over? take it she ended it?
Riley Freeman Posted August 5, 2008 Posted August 5, 2008 ok then i will just go in get my stuff and leave wont say a word atta boy /high 5
Author johnny1102 Posted August 5, 2008 Author Posted August 5, 2008 johnny why does she text you everyday if its over? take it she ended it? I dont know she just likes to talk to me but i cant stop textin back. i feel if i dont text back there will never be another chance for me
Meaplus3 Posted August 5, 2008 Posted August 5, 2008 I got to go and get the rest of my stuff from the flat we had together. Its tomorrow just wanted to know if i should say anything. I would simply get your stuff and tell her you wish to have NO further contact. NC is tough but it can be done.. you just need to stick with it. Good luck. AP:)
tealeafbud Posted August 5, 2008 Posted August 5, 2008 I wouldn't worry about it too much. I think NC has such a stigma attached to it like it's an official avoidance of your ex. Of course it is, but it doesn't need to be official. It's pretty much like why your parents told you not to do something, then you'd get curious and do it anyway? It just needs to be an casual avoidance like doing drugs. You know you're not going to do it, and you don't stress over it. You just don't do it. maybe change NC to something like MT = Me Time. or whatever. In my experience, you'll feel better in time.
SundaeMorning Posted August 5, 2008 Posted August 5, 2008 I wouldn't worry about it too much. I think NC has such a stigma attached to it like it's an official avoidance of your ex. Of course it is, but it doesn't need to be official. It's pretty much like why your parents told you not to do something, then you'd get curious and do it anyway? It just needs to be an casual avoidance like doing drugs. You know you're not going to do it, and you don't stress over it. You just don't do it. maybe change NC to something like MT = Me Time. or whatever. In my experience, you'll feel better in time. ooh, I really like how you said all of that.. I agree that NC has a stigma attached to it. it can feel like someone breathing down your neck and then getting pissed off is some form of contact is made.... but as i've read thru LS.. we should use it as a tool and not treat it like it is a LAW. MT = Me Time sounds good and healthy :]
Ingenue Posted August 5, 2008 Posted August 5, 2008 do what is best for you.. I'm in agreement with sultry on doing what is best for you regarding informing or not informing your ex of your desire for no contact. In my situation, I mulled the same question after about 2 weeks of no contact with him. In the end, I wrote him a very to the point email that told him I was taking time for myself and that I was going no contact. For me, that email made me feel better as a person because I was being my typical self. I wouldn't ignore emails from people in my everyday life, so letting him know that I was now ignoring him allowed me to try to be conscientious and responsible. What's important to keep in mind with whatever decision you make, is that the decision should make you feel better. You should prioritize yourself first. Whether that means telling her or not telling her about NC is something only you can decide. Good luck with getting your possessions back
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