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So its been almost two weeks since my ex and I have been broken up and I haven't even contacted my ex and he hasn't even contacted me until last night...

 

Three of my good friends and I decided to have a sleep over. They thought it would be fun to prank call my ex boyfriend. One of my friends decided to act like a friend of one of my exes friends. So she called him at 2 in the morning. I didn't think he would answer because when we were dating he always went to bed early on Sundays since he had to go to work early on Mondays. But boy was I wrong. He answered and he sounded like he was WIDE awake not tired or anything like he used to with me. So my friend told him how she heard from his friend that he was single and wanted to know if he would like to hang out with her sometime. His response was that he is "happily" in a relationship with someone at the moment and how his friend that we described was right in front of him and didn't know anyone by the made up name we made.

 

I'm just in such a shock and Im so angry to think that he is already in a relationship when he told me he loved me and that I was the best relationship he ever had. I just want to drive the two hours, find him, and punch him in his face. My friends were trying to cheer me up last night because right when I heard him say how he is in a relationship I just cried my heart out. To think that I missed him and wanted to contact him and have been wondering what he has been up to..

 

I guess I never really did know the true him. My friends deleted his number out of my phone, they believe that now that I know I need to move on from him. I really want to move on from him, but I don't know how to.

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I truly believe everything happens for a reason. It was a way for you to realize it's time to move on and face another chapter in your life and close this one. It sucks the way you found out but if you go looking for something you're bound to find it. No break up is easy and being heart broken is not fun, but in every relationship you learn something new. You will only be able to move on when you're good and ready. Some people take a few months even a few years...it just takes time.

 

Start going out with your friends and remember what it's like to be you again. Sometimes when you're in a relationship you loose yourself and don't realize how much you've changed. If he's in another relationship it's because he obviously didn't have the same feelings for you anymore. It's better of being alone than with someone who's leading you on and lyging to you. Just keep your head up and remember there are plenty of fish in the see.

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I really want to move on from him, but I don't know how to.

 

Not calling him would be a good place to start. :D

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mego, you need to realize that it will take more than two weeks to get over your relationship. It seems like you both cared for each other,but not that it's over, you need to move on with your life. I know you'll hear that a million times, but the alternative is crawling up in a ball and doing nothing, and we all know that won't help. Well, maybe for a little while. Just focus on you. Value yourself and seek company from friends and family and LS! take care.

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Yeah, I know. I guess finding out that he has a new girlfriend the hard way will make it so much easier for me to move on from him now.

 

I don't have his number anymore so its pretty much impossible for me to contact him which i don't want to do at all. The only thing I would love to do is drive the two hours, find him, and punch him in his face after everything I did for him.

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finding out that he has a new girlfriend the hard way will make it so much easier for me to move on from him now.

Ignoring the "wisdom" behind the crank call, it's possible that he just said that to prevent having to get into some whole warped thing with some "weirdo" on the phone.

OTOH, yes he could have a new g/f. Like you say, the good part about that would be that it'll be easier for you to now head in the direction that YOU want to go, rather than stay hung-up on him. Good for you!

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Yeah, it could have been possible, but I highly doubt it because he didn't pause or anything and he said it just like he did when he told people about me. He just sounded so happy and thrilled.

 

Yeah, I was still hung up on him and I was still iffy about moving on from him, but now I am NOT going to be hung up on him anymore. Hearing that he has a girlfriend just made me so mad and confused, which helped me realize that he wasn't the guy that I thought I was dating.

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Hey Mego,

 

You'll make it through. You're much better than he is, and no matter what happens, you're a better person because of this. It's good that you finally have closure to this and can move on.

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