wareagle Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 Well those of you that don't know the background, my ex **** on me back in early March. We work together, I have been no contact since then. We work together, not close, but I could run into her any time during the day. Since the split I did every thing I could to avoid her at work and I did a pretty excellent job! So she has been on voluntary layoff since June 16th, but is scheduled to return on Aug. 18th. With her being gone it has made my daily worklife much less stressfull to say the least! I am in a much better place now, fully headed for recovery, and no longer pine for her or wish things could have been different. I see her for what she is and for what she has done to me! Sure I miss her, the person I fell in love with that is, not the person she turned out to be. I think I am ready to face her if I run into her, but there is still a little doubt in the back of my mind because I haven't seen or talked to her since March, so I don't know how I would react if I did run into her? My question is? Should I keep running and doing what I have to do to avoid her, or just face it head on? Am I ready for it? I know I'm the only one who can answer these questions, I just thought maybe you guys and gals could maybe offer me a little insight?
foxh1234 Posted August 5, 2008 Posted August 5, 2008 Well those of you that don't know the background, my ex **** on me back in early March. We work together, I have been no contact since then. We work together, not close, but I could run into her any time during the day. Since the split I did every thing I could to avoid her at work and I did a pretty excellent job! So she has been on voluntary layoff since June 16th, but is scheduled to return on Aug. 18th. With her being gone it has made my daily worklife much less stressfull to say the least! I am in a much better place now, fully headed for recovery, and no longer pine for her or wish things could have been different. I see her for what she is and for what she has done to me! Sure I miss her, the person I fell in love with that is, not the person she turned out to be. I think I am ready to face her if I run into her, but there is still a little doubt in the back of my mind because I haven't seen or talked to her since March, so I don't know how I would react if I did run into her? My question is? Should I keep running and doing what I have to do to avoid her, or just face it head on? Am I ready for it? I know I'm the only one who can answer these questions, I just thought maybe you guys and gals could maybe offer me a little insight? That's tough man, I feel for you. I think you should face her asap and get it over with. I think you are tougher than you think and you will handle it and be fine. After that initial contact, you will realize that you are OK and it will be easier from that point on. I have faith in you man. You can do this and show her you are over her. Don't let her control you at work.
tealeafbud Posted August 5, 2008 Posted August 5, 2008 wareagle, nice name. The "strong man" in me says that you need to face the thing head on, and just keep doing what you are doing. No need to plan your schedule, life, and route around her. Just don't make eye contact. If you do make eye contact, look behind her then look away. The "weak man" in me says that when love is involved, all logic goes out the window and I'd be totally frightened.
Author wareagle Posted August 5, 2008 Author Posted August 5, 2008 I know what you guy's are saying, I am afraid that having not seen her for so long and laying eyes on her for the first time will be hard! I do still love her, I just don't want to go back to feeling like I did in the beginning. I have come a long ass way since March, and I damn sure don't want to take a step back now! It's inevitible that I am going to have to face her some day as long as we both work together, I just don't know if now is the right time, or if I should wait until the heart has completely healed! But that's just it, I won't know until I face it head on Right?
tealeafbud Posted August 5, 2008 Posted August 5, 2008 I know what you guy's are saying, I am afraid that having not seen her for so long and laying eyes on her for the first time will be hard! I do still love her, I just don't want to go back to feeling like I did in the beginning. I have come a long ass way since March, and I damn sure don't want to take a step back now! It's inevitible that I am going to have to face her some day as long as we both work together, I just don't know if now is the right time, or if I should wait until the heart has completely healed! But that's just it, I won't know until I face it head on Right? Exactly, Sponge Bob!
Riley Freeman Posted August 5, 2008 Posted August 5, 2008 ok when you see her just walk by her real pimp like and dont say a word....unless its for business.....then strunt down the hallway at work like you got it going on
Author wareagle Posted August 5, 2008 Author Posted August 5, 2008 Lol ok Tea don't get the spongebob reference, but ok? I hear ya Riley I am a pimp and that's exactly what I am going to do, she ain't gonna see me sweat her! LOL
tealeafbud Posted August 5, 2008 Posted August 5, 2008 haha wareagle. I figure if the Sponge Bob comment made you scratch your head for a moment, then it might have distracted you from her. If only for a moment. Just a small exercise in mind tricks
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