lkonohalanbu Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 Hi, I'm new to the forum, been reading and taking into consideration everybody's thoughts, feelings and experiences. I recently got dumped by a great girl (not so great now, HAHA!), we were together for 1.7 years, she was the one that was always getting dumped, I'm the longest relationship she has ever had. She loves me and I have been nothing but the best to her. She was having doubts in the relationship, she decided to break my heart. Her reason for leaving was to "find herself," she isn't seeing anybody new, we have always been very honest to each other and she said she needed time to herself, she didn't know how long, that's why she decided to break up. She broke up with me Sunday, she made my family dinner and we said our goodbyes, but that wasn't much of a goodbye, I saw her last Tuesdays, we talked, cried and had sex one last time. I promised her to not contact her for two weeks, but went back on my word everyday because of an earthquake and being clingy. Saturday was the last day, I just got hired full time at a great job(temp to perm). Everybody I knew was out of town and didn't pick up. She was my last resort. I was happy and not sad, but it still ended up me being clingy, she got cold and I noticed I was pushing her away. I will stick to the no contact deal, but I miss her greatly! I'm taking steps to keep myself busy and out of her life, but I can't help but think about her. Any ideas on how to handle this and move on? Or if I should give her time away until she contacts me and give her an ultimatum? I'm hurting a great deal, but I got to eat the pain and have my best foot forward.
CaliGuy Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 Please go buy "No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Glover and read it during this two weeks of no contact. Trust me, it will be the best thing you ever did for yourself IF you follow the advice that is given.
Author lkonohalanbu Posted August 4, 2008 Author Posted August 4, 2008 i don't suffer from many of the nice guy syndrome though... should i still pick it up?
CaliGuy Posted August 5, 2008 Posted August 5, 2008 i don't suffer from many of the nice guy syndrome though... should i still pick it up? Yes. You will learn more than you can imagine through that book AND it will give you something to do during NC.
Author lkonohalanbu Posted August 8, 2008 Author Posted August 8, 2008 I set myself 5 days back, watched Pineapple Express, pretty funny movie, felt lonely and kept thinking about her. Went to a hookah restaurant for a few hours and I got home around 12, I couldn’t sleep until 2, I kept thinking about her and how she was doing, so I called and she didn’t pick up. I texted her and I was explaining it was just to check on how she’s doing, I was able to sleep after, I don’t feel heart wrenching or sad because she didn’t pick up or call back, not even a text. =D
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