justliketv Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 found out through his facebook that he's seeing someone and felt sick for days since:( then i had a dream about him last night where we were just happy & together. can't shift this anxious feeling in my stomach and felt tearful all day at work. i hate the thought of him with someone else. the only thing that makes me feel better is that maybe they'll just go on a few dates and nothing will come of it. we broke up cos he 'didn't want a relationship' and it scares me so much that he might get official with this girl and not with me. i broke n/c about a week before this and it was just completly cold small talk. it just makes me feel awful cos me & him obviously meant nothing to him. i've barely heard from him since we stopped seeing each other (4/5 months ago.arrgghh) we never talked things through properly at the end of our relationship and it's really getting to me badly now:( really need closure but i'm never gonna get it. i feel like i'm going mad. and i feel really embarised of myself that it's taking me so long to get over him how can i care so much about someone that doesn't feel the same?i can't talk to anyone about it cos i don't want them to know that i'm not over it yet and think i'm weird. we were only seeing each other for three months and didn't even make to official 'boyfriend' & 'girlfriend',but in love with him as a friend for a year before that. i'm gonna see him back at uni in september and i don't want to see him with anyone else or for him to know that i still care. just got horrible images of seeing him out with a new girlfriend and me having to go home crying and him knowing about it. been praying a lot for him back. feels like this is never ending:( never felt anything like it.i feel like i'm going mad. xx
citizen67 Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 I've been there and it really hurts. I'm sorry you are suffering through this. Try using this as the impetus for getting over him once and for all - that is what I am doing since I saw my ex with his new gf
foxh1234 Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 Here are a few things for you to do. 1. Go complete NC until you heal, meet someone else, or you feel over him enough to maybe be friends. 2. STOP LOOKING AT HIS FACEBOOK!!! This does nothing but set you back. Block him, delete him, whatever you have to do. 3. Find things to do to take your mind off of him, hang with friends, read, watch dvd's, exercise, whatever. 4. Don't feel bad about not being over him yet. It is different for everyone and you will be over him when you are ready. 5. Do all the things above and you will feel better and be ready to move forward and get your life back. This may sound simple, but it is so true. You cannot make someone love you. If he doesn't want to be with you, let him go and move on. Life is way too short to waste time on someone who doesn't feel the same way as you do. You deserve better and you will find it by doing the things I have listed above. Good Luck and remember that we are all here for you anytime you need to vent. I have been where you are and I got through it. You will to.
johnny1102 Posted August 5, 2008 Posted August 5, 2008 i know you how feel i found out today that my ex is with someone else and yes it was on facebook. you just need to get them out your life i know it is hard i am going threw the same thing as well. Its ture u cant force someone to love you i had been trying that for the last 6 months. every time she wanted to split up i always wanted her back but i could see that she never wanted me. Just take (foxh1234) advise thats what i am going to do. Just be strong
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