London Girl Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 I have not seen my ex since March 2007 and to this day I still miss him very much. I have since dated 3 guys one of whom I have been seeing for the last 2 months but I don't feel strong enough for this guy like I did for my ex. This new guy is completely different to my ex but he is really committed to me which makes me feel guilty I still have feelings for my ex. How long does it take for the feelings and hurt to go away?
JooLee Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 till you realise that you have so much self worth and value and that it is okay to love again. with the words of Gloria Gaynor - " ive got all my life to live and i've got all my love to give - i will survive" for me i believe the key is, you move on when you want to move on. And to want to move on, it sure does take time and the time is the killer =( dont give up. you are doing good so far, to let yourself know people and date other people. im sure you have took a big leap from when you first broke up so give yourself an applause with the improvement you have made in your life. Why waste your thoughts on someone who isnt wasting theirs on you? be strong. you're beautiful and wonderful. on the other hand , it wouldnt be fair to this other guy if you're not ready to give him the level of commitment he wants from you. think thoroughly about this guy but remember - dont be afraid to be alone. there's nothing wrong in that. you should be able to be happy just by yourself. all the best to you
Author London Girl Posted August 4, 2008 Author Posted August 4, 2008 Thanks for the wise advice JooLee. I guess I've just been having a difficult week feeling nostalgic. There are times when I think I am over my ex and have moved on but then all the feelings and hurt resurfaces. I guess he will always be the one that got away. I guess you cannot help who you fall for. I guess another part is that I am scared of getting hurt again and perhaps that's why I am avoiding getting emotionally attached with the new guy but I know I should give the new guy a chance.
bustertypsy Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 Question.....who ended the relationship? I'd hate to think you did and haven't let him know your feelings.If he ended it,then you should try your best to move on.If your presant guy isn't making you forget your ex,then I don't think he's the right person for you,but merely a passing ship,so don't use this man if that's the case.He doesn't deserve to be hurt and he shouldn't be second fiddle to your ex.
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