yongyong Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 I kind of figured out why she's been telling me, she can't give me commitment, 'let's be friends till I figure out', 'let me know if you find someone' Everybody told me it's because she just lost interest and wants to keep me as an insurance:lmao: I think I need to explain the whole situation. I am sure it's not because of that. I am 25 and she is 34. I will be done with college next year so I am not independent yet However, she understands about my situation and she is an independent woman (not looking for a guy to get a support) I told her if I live with her, I won't depend on her I think her biggest issue is about having a baby. she thinks I will be ready to be a dad when I hit 30 and by that time she will be almost 40 which is kinda late for woman to have a baby she wants to have a family but thinks it's not possible so she gets really upset when saying this She also worries about how she could tell her family about my age. I might see them (outside U.S) maybe every 2 years so I don't think it would be a big deal. Now she is trying to think logically but she can't deny what her heart says. That's why she is telling me 'we should've stayed as a sex partner' 'you should've not talked to me at that coffee shop', 'if you were 5 years older', 'find someone younger and dump me' things like that. Since I know she loves me but she is afraid of those future stuff, I've been telling her everything will be ok but it doesn't help and we keep arguing..... I told her 'you make your decision and let me know, I will make my decision too'. I think, if I try to convince her, it will bring a negative effect. Should I just let her make her own decision? and respect it?
Blue Strawberry Posted August 5, 2008 Posted August 5, 2008 Of course it is not too late to have a baby at 39 or 40. Women do it all the time!
vonerik012 Posted August 5, 2008 Posted August 5, 2008 My friend, take your time, and find a younger woman. You are 25. She is the one that has the biological clock. You can have a child at 45 easily if you choose. Don't be pressured into have babies if you are not ready. Once you are 35, you can easily marry a woman who is 28. then you can have a few kids if you wish. Or, you can have one kid early, and then that it, and you have a wife that is a decade older. I know at 25 older women are cool, bu your ideas will change once you hit 30. She isn't with a man that is 10 years older. Why should you be with a woman that is? It is unnatural.
jerbear Posted August 5, 2008 Posted August 5, 2008 I say go for it. I've done it and you do what you two feel is right. 30 and 39, not a big deal. You two have more resources at your disposal versus having to scrap.
CaliGuy Posted August 5, 2008 Posted August 5, 2008 She sounds awefully insecure... I understand why she has those concerns but how she is expressing them is way insecure.
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