larrysb Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 Hey, I'm 18yr old guy and about to start my 1st year of college. I've had several relationships with girls, but they've never gone very far. The most recent relationship was the most unsettling. It ended essentially because I didn't kiss her on our last date. Here's the big truth; I've never kissed a girl. Its not like I have a problem attracting girls. I'm a very good looking guy, have a great body, smart, nice, and I have "playful" humor. Though I am more shy around people I don't know than I should be. I'm just afraid of "choking" in the moment. I figure by my age most girls expect a guy to know how to kiss and make out. Especially someone who looks like me. And now college is coming around and I'd like to be social and hopefully make some sparks or find a real relationship, but I don't know how to fix this HUGE problem. One thing I won't resort to is alcohol. I respect my body and I prefer to be seen as one of the few attractive guys that doesn't have to drink to be cool. Is it an issue of self-confidence? I've been terribly shy until about a year ago, but I still climb back in the shell occasionally, so to speak.
quankanne Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 hate to say it, but practice makes perfect when it comes to kissing. If you've got a female friend willing to practice with you, do so ... you'll get an idea of technique, of kinds of kissing, etc. I will say this: I think the older you get, the more you start appreciating the act (and art) of kissing. In college, I never thought much about it, but now? Esp. with my husband? HUGE turn-on. And a great way to communicate
carhill Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 OP, kissing is an expression and communication of how you feel. Yes, there is some technique to it, but many years of experience has taught me that ultimately it's the why and not the how that matters in the long run. Just remember that, with the right person, you won't even remember that you were nervous/afraid whatever. It'll just be natural. My only practical advice is to start light and slow. Remember that the girl might be as nervous as you say you are. You really have no way of knowing for sure how you affect another person. Hence a bit of intimate communication to clear things up
johan Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 The secret is to breathe through your nose, but not too heavily.
Mahatma Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 kissing is something that comes naturally. if you are going to make out with her, let her lead right at first, and just follow what she does. then once you start to get more comfortable, do your own thing.
SilkLeaves Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 A quick tip on what NOT to do. At the end of a nice date, don't immediately slobber all over her. This can be a big turn off if a girl is just expecting a peck. Instead, try keeping your mouth closed, hold one of your hands against the side of her face and just gently press your mouth against hers. You can deepen the kiss one you've established that she actually wants to kiss you. Good luck!
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