saams Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 I am in need of some advice.. i have been together with a girl for about 3 months and i really started to love her, after awhile she says she needed some time and space.. she wasnt sure about the relationship but i couldnt stop calling her and writing her, after a week of fighting and real bad stuff going on between us she called me and said we shouldnt continue this and we should just be friends for now, which would be fine normally but i really feel like this one is special and i am having a really hard time letting go, and specially just being her friend. she says all her love she had for me is gone becourse i wouldnt let her breathe, she felt she couldnt be herself around me becourse i was there all the time and so she ended it. she is really special to me and it feels really bad losing her. what i am really in need of now is an advice of how to deal with this.. i dont know if i should continue trying or just try to forget about her?
jerbear Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 Hi there! When a woman says she needs room to breath give her space. You do not have to be passive-aggressive then disappear. You also do not have to "forget about her" a 3 month relationship can still be salvageable. The constant contact is a turnoff for her, meaning you do not have your own life, needy, insecure, no hobbies, whatever; and that is not sexy to her. First, tone down the constant contact and pursue some of your own interests. Second, tell her that you'll give her space and not ignoring her. She can contact you when she is ready. Third, go do your own thing. Stop thinking and contacting her. Fourth, work on yourself, get a hobby, get passionate. When she contacts you weeks later, since you two are still friends, see how the conversation goes and take it from there.
citysreetz Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 You obviously smothered her and chased her away. You only had 3 moths invested so I would move on. She probably isnt tied emotionally with you as you are to her so I honestly dont think she will be back. If I was you, I would learn from my mistake and move on. Sorry that happened to you dude!! You cant do that to a woman.
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