jerbear Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 I am curious to know what others think on giving a wrong number. This is based on another thread on a guy giving the wrong number to someone. My thoughts that giving the wrong contact information can be an accident, it can be an ego booster for the receiver and the flip side a non-ego crusher to the giver. It can also be any other reasons. Contact information can be phone #, email, business card, etc... Is it better to say no interests or give the wrong contact info? Thoughts?
porter218 Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 I think it is wrong to do unless you have a reason like knowing they have a gf/bf or they have done something that upset you. Of coarse the best solution is not to give any info. There are also those women how are too chicken sh*t to turn down an aggressive approach from a man..then they can give the RH # to them.
mokie114 Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 It's better to be honest. I've actually gotten a number in the past and called it and it wasn't the right number. I gave up and thought i had gotten a fake number, a couple days later i got a call from her friend saying "why haven't you called her?". I'd rather get a "no sorry" than a fake number. I'd rather get a lie like "I have a boyfriend" than a fake number too.
Trialbyfire Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 I think it cowardly to give someone the wrong number. Never be afraid to say no, if you're not interested, regardless of how aggressive a guy is. Most guys are pretty good about it, if you're assertive enough. Mixed signals are bad mojo. If a guy won't leave you alone, just find another guy to help you, preferably someone you know. One time at a club, there was this guy who wouldn't leave me alone no matter what I said or did, stalking me all over the club. Very creepy. So finally, I found my bodybuilder friend who was part of the group that went that night and draped myself all over him, telling him why. BB friend just glared at the other guy when he approached and that...was...that!
porter218 Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 I think it cowardly to give someone the wrong number. Never be afraid to say no, if you're not interested, regardless of how aggressive a guy is. I fully agree with you. I would never need to give a fake # because it is easy for me to be assertive or even rude if needed. However, I have had a case where a guy literally told me he would not leave me alone until I gave him my #(this was a large thuggish looking guy). Now I just told him that my H was close by and if he sees a man near me he would shoot him. But I don't think that every woman has the nerve to say something off the wall enough to make a man like that leave them alone. In those cases I understand why some women just use the rejection hot-line # to get them off their back.
Trialbyfire Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 I fully agree with you. I would never need to give a fake # because it is easy for me to be assertive or even rude if needed. However, I have had a case where a guy literally told me he would not leave me alone until I gave him my #(this was a large thuggish looking guy). Now I just told him that my H was close by and if he sees a man near me he would shoot him. But I don't think that every woman has the nerve to say something off the wall enough to make a man like that leave them alone. In those cases I understand why some women just use the rejection hot-line # to get them off their back.I guess but there's always a bouncer or bartender!
Angel1111 Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 I would think that if someone got the wrong phone number, it's more likely that it was an accident, than a deliberate lie. I don't think it's at all difficult to tell a guy that I don't want to give out my phone number. If he continues to pressure me, I just look at him in silence. I suppose there are instances where a person may feel obligated to give out a wrong number but I have never done it.
Lizzie60 Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 I wouldn't give my number... unless I was in a life-threatening situation (like a friend of mine was) then I would give a wrong number..
KinAZ Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 I think it's a pretty immature thing to do. It's like you're wasting the other person's time. BUT... I'm not exactly mature for hiding from my phone either! I created a post about this overly enthusiastic guy I had given my number to (even though I wasn't really interested) because he seemed nice. I was planning to tell him why I've been avoiding him once he stopped blowing up my phone, but he won't stop calling. I'm saying all of this to say, lol I can't judge! I'm not being very adult about this matter myself. But no, I don't think there's any sense in giving the wrong number. I think it would be better to just lie right then and there about unavailability if you don't have the courage to tell the person you're simply not interested. But I didn't even have the courage then to say no or lie because he seemed really nice and harmless.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 I just say my boyfriend wouldn't be very happy if I gave my number out to men I meet in bars. Then I hope they don't find out there is no boyfriend.
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