mokie114 Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 I have a classmate and good friend that I've become very attracted to over the last few months. When I first met her in February, I found out that we're going to be going to England together to study there with our university's study abroad program. When we first met I talked to her about relationships and found that both of us weren't interested in long term relationships as we had just gotten out of one. We were both just looking to date people. Since then we've been to a couple of movies (we've been very busy so we've only seen each other outside of school twice), but we've been texting, myspacing and talking to each other at school very consistantly. Every time we talk we end up sitting in her car talking for a long time and wishing we had more time to talk. I've tried flirting with her a couple times with just a smile and a laugh but no real response other than that. She says that she's shy, and she sort of is, which makes me think that the fact that she introduced herself to me is a good sign. She's a very good friend, but I'm totally falling for her and I'm wondering how to find out how receptive she'd be to just steadily dating me. no pressure, no long term label, i just really feel a connection but i'm terrified of the rejection because we're such good friends. any advice?
jerbear Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 Sounds like you two are psuedo dating and didn't have the talk. I suggest going in for a kiss during one of the car talk sessions. Follow her reactions and actions versus what she says. You two might just end up being a couple.
Author mokie114 Posted August 4, 2008 Author Posted August 4, 2008 Sounds like you two are psuedo dating and didn't have the talk. I suggest going in for a kiss during one of the car talk sessions. Follow her reactions and actions versus what she says. You two might just end up being a couple. i dunno i'm afraid i'd get slapped if i just up and kissed her.
Author mokie114 Posted August 4, 2008 Author Posted August 4, 2008 well it looks like i'm not going to see her for a few days, she's busy the next couple days and i have to fly out to minnesota for a relative's wedding. would it be weird if i sent her flowers while i'm gone?
jerbear Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 i dunno i'm afraid i'd get slapped if i just up and kissed her. So? Have to take risks, you'll find out if she likes you. would it be weird if i sent her flowers while i'm gone? nope. I suggest doing it.
Author mokie114 Posted August 5, 2008 Author Posted August 5, 2008 thanks jerbear, i'll definitely take your advice. we'll see what happens. probably write "thinking of you" or something simple on the card.
Author mokie114 Posted August 17, 2008 Author Posted August 17, 2008 well sent her flowers, which she said she loved. still not much of a reaction other than that. still haven't gotten a chance to hang out with her, she's too busy. the confusion continues.
JoeNewbie Posted August 17, 2008 Posted August 17, 2008 I highly suggest you refrain from doing any romantic gestures at this point. It is way too early. The odds are that you've been friendzoned already. She knows you're a good guy but now she needs to see you as a sexual mate as well. No flowers, no talk, just go for a date and try to get physical.
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