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It all started at the begin of this year on new year days we met at a party the evening b4 and it was love for me staright away i had never met a girl like this b4. we started datting and it went well for the first 2 months and we decied that we want to have a baby together.

 

When we got to march she went to this party when he ex lover was and he started telling her that he loves and he wants her back so she left me for 4 days where it did not work for them. then i begged her to take me back and she did. it went well for the next month and we got a flat together we lived together for happy for the next few months.

 

One day when i went out looking for work i found out when i got home

she was in bed with someone else. which just happend to be one of my mates. we did not talk that day but the next day she dumped me for 14 days where we still lived togeher. she found out that i had bought her a ring b4 she cheated and she asked me one nite if there is still a chance that we cud put that ring to good use. i said no because i had all ready took the ring back to the shop.

 

We got back together then in june it all went down for me there was a text on her phone saying " it was wrong what we did but why should we stop" so i told her that we needed to speak and she dumped me there and then she has been sleeping with that boy for the last month. and last nite i found out she never loved me and she is back with the 1st boy she left me for.

 

The main problem i have is that what ever she does to me i still want her but she dont want me anymore. i have lost all my mates and i never leave the house anymore just because i miss her. i have even fort of taking my life i just dont know what to do. i just want her back but she dont want me at all.

please can someone help me before i do something stupid.

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Hello,

Hey dude relax.

Your ex doesn't seem to sure about what she wants in life, right now at the moment it looks like she is exploring her options.

 

You have to do things that make you happy & do things that get the liquid in your body flowing inorder to ease this pain and inorder to get this girl out of your system.

 

If you want to feel better about yourself as well as your situtation, it is adviseable for you to go excerising.

 

This will help you deal with all the feelings you are having, you should also think back to your childhood and try to remember a hobby of yours, that you enjoy doing, then you should start practicing this hobby.

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Wow, your story reminds me of mine in a lot of ways. Mine went back to his ex 3 times and never could decide if he wanted me or not because he was always cheating under my nose. My dad even had to break it to me one day that he was cheating on me. We were engaged.

 

I know what you are feeling and I promise you it will get better. It won't happen overnight, and you may hurt more before the pain gets better, but don't entertain the idea that this is what you were destined.

 

Focus on yourself because that's all you have right now. Learn to be a friend to yourself and discover tiny things that make you happy. Mine was hearing birds chirping and seeing a butterfly. It was my ah-ha moment and I realized that there was beautiful and peaceful life outside my own...and I enjoyed their peacefulness with them- for just a few minutes a day. (I was never a nature person and still am not really- but this did it for me somehow.)

 

You will recover and you will be so much stronger than you can imagine. Don't give up on yourself.

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thanks for the advise people

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