amanda1983 Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 Well, I meet this guy two years ago when I was in another town finishing up my internship program for my last year of college. He actually came up to me one night, when I was out with a couple of friends and he seemed very nice so when he asked me for my phone number I gave it to him. He called me three days later as he said he would. We end up hanging out a couple of times since then and then but one day it all stopped. I never heard from him again. Two years later, I receive a text asking me if i remembered him. At the moment I didn't but then he texted me back telling me who he was and from there we started talking. This lasted for about a week. He still calls me but every now and then. When I send him a text he doesn't respond anymore. I am so confused. He is currently in the navy and about to be deployed in a few months. When I first meet him, he was in school for flight. Now, he is a naval flight officer. When we started talking for the first time after two years, I did ask him why he contacted me and he said: "that they are no girls in San diego (where he is based now) and that I was a nice, smart girl and hot girl. He also said when he first met me he was scared and young and wasnt sure what he wanted. He says he has grown up since then and he knows what he wants."Everytime he calls the conversation lasts for about 10 minutes. Everytime he doesn't call he apologizes for not speaking to me sooner that hes been so busy. He told me on the weekeneds is his days to relax but when i text him those days he doesn't respond. I'm so confused. Is he playing games with me? What do i do?
carhill Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 My translation: Contact info collector thumbs through list to find something to do during downtime. IMO he's just a BS'er. Of course, we both know there are tons of girls in San Diego, don't we?
Author amanda1983 Posted August 3, 2008 Author Posted August 3, 2008 He probably is a player but what I don't understand is why would he play me knowing that we are over 3,000 miles from each other. And why would he keep my phone number for over two years ?
citysreetz Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 Yeah, hes playing games, I think. He wants you to chase him. Maybe he likes the attention.
carhill Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 OP, I have a rolodex (remember those? ) with phone numbers from 30 years ago. Ditto for business cards... If he was interested, he'd spend a day on a plane and come visit you It's really no big deal. A lot of us do it all the time. And he can fly essentially for free.... You're just a fun diversion. Combo of the titillation and him being a NFO is a bit seductive though, right?
Author amanda1983 Posted August 3, 2008 Author Posted August 3, 2008 OP, I have a rolodex (remember those? ) with phone numbers from 30 years ago. Ditto for business cards... If he was interested, he'd spend a day on a plane and come visit you It's really no big deal. A lot of us do it all the time. And he can fly essentially for free.... You're just a fun diversion. Combo of the titillation and him being a NFO is a bit seductive though, right? I guess your right. It is a bit exciting with him being a NFO. Maybe he is playing games but I don't understanding what enjoyment he will be getting from it. As far as him coming to visit and vice versa, he told that he will be busy training and won't have time to see me. Maybe it all a lie but the next time he calls I am going to tell I don't see the point of talking. Good luck and goodbye.
carhill Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 Glad we could help. Maybe he'll surprise you after training is over
Author amanda1983 Posted August 3, 2008 Author Posted August 3, 2008 Well that would be nice:)!!! I think its best to probably not even answer his phone call at all. If he wants to talk to me then he will show it.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 He's a navy pilot? Enough said. Go for the submarine commander. They're a little more down to earth
Author amanda1983 Posted August 5, 2008 Author Posted August 5, 2008 Navy Pilots aren't down to earth:confused:??? Maybe thats the reason he treats me the way he does:bunny:!!!!!
carhill Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 Not all of them do. I've known some real gentleman who were career military (Navy and Marines) in my life. No pilots though..... NFO's likely have the same psychological profile as aviators, which is both attractive to and often painful for women. Oh, CherryBlossom was making a joke....down to earth...submarine commander...below the sea...
bigmanpayne Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 He probably is a player but what I don't understand is why would he play me knowing that we are over 3,000 miles from each other. And why would he keep my phone number for over two years ? because you are probably freakin' HOT! he isnt a very good player. with him being in the service he is probably used to stickin and movin he might not be fully developed into a grown up. i know some people who were in the army and they never really got out of that mentality - even when they got out, they still do the same stuff and try to treat women as if they are being deployed 2morrow, but they are civilians now (hope that made sense). anyway, he might like you - even just because you are good looking or sexy or something. if thats ok with you, keep playing the games, if not then stop accepting his phone calls.
Author amanda1983 Posted August 7, 2008 Author Posted August 7, 2008 Well, sometimes I think the reason why he treated me or treats me the way he does, is because of a race factor, me being a black female and him being white. Maybe he really just can't handle the interracial think. I thought in the military there is alot of interracial families (white and black couples). Maybe I'm wrong!!!
carhill Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 Well I would say that's his problem. Hawt comes in all shapes, sizes and colors, yes?
bigmanpayne Posted August 7, 2008 Posted August 7, 2008 Well, sometimes I think the reason why he treated me or treats me the way he does, is because of a race factor, me being a black female and him being white. Maybe he really just can't handle the interracial think. I thought in the military there is alot of interracial families (white and black couples). Maybe I'm wrong!!! i didnt know about the interracial thing... that could be it too.
Author amanda1983 Posted August 8, 2008 Author Posted August 8, 2008 I thought about in the back of my head but denied it could be the reason but now I'm beginning to think that it is really is the reason. I'm glad things with us never went to far and intimate. But maybe this isn't really the reason for his actions. I have no idea. By the way, he called 2 days ago but I didn't call back.
bigmanpayne Posted August 8, 2008 Posted August 8, 2008 I thought about in the back of my head but denied it could be the reason but now I'm beginning to think that it is really is the reason. I'm glad things with us never went to far and intimate. But maybe this isn't really the reason for his actions. I have no idea. By the way, he called 2 days ago but I didn't call back. good dont call him. stop thinking about this situation... it isnt healthy
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