vineandcoffee45 Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 Hi... I had never post anything anywhere.. I am just in bad shape right now...and decided to reach out... while surfing the web trying to get some information on affairs with married man (since I believed to be in one) I found a post that he made here..where he speaks pretty poorly about me....and then others where he goes in detail about working realy hard on saving his marriage.. I thought he was my best friend.... If my writing seems weird..it's because it is...English is my second language...be patient.. How can I move on? how can I tell my heart to stop feeling? How did I get into this mess? I have only giving him honesty and truthfulness
nadiaj2727 Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 I am sorry you found this out this way. That must be horrible. Just tell yourself you deserve better until you believe it. That was not right of him. Best wishes.
Author vineandcoffee45 Posted August 3, 2008 Author Posted August 3, 2008 Thank you.. your sympathy feels good... in this state,...anything is welcome
nadiaj2727 Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 You know that you deserve better, right? What kind of man do you want? Honest, open, sincere, loving? Hint: A man like that doesn't cheat on the woman he took vows to be faithful to. I am a former OW. I know how it feels to realize you have been used and that you were betrayed just as you helped to betray. I'm not on here much anymore but you can PM me any time. I wish you the best.
Author vineandcoffee45 Posted August 3, 2008 Author Posted August 3, 2008 The kind of man I want has his first and last name.. he also has his eyes..his slow walk, his greek features, his perfectionist ways, his fears, his smell, his thought-process, his impatience... I am deep in the S___t....I know thank you for your imput... yes it is really hard to feel used by the best possible man...
nadiaj2727 Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 Well if after all of this you still think he is the perfect man, then what are you doing here? There is nothing I can say to help you. I am not the perfect person he is. Good luck with that.
Author vineandcoffee45 Posted August 3, 2008 Author Posted August 3, 2008 yeah I ma sure it sounds very weak in my part...my promise to him was always to accept him with imperfections and issues,,,, what I found out today...it's so new ...It's still sinking in.. it's not easy for me at all... Sorry to waste your time have a good night
Lyssa Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 The kind of man I want has his first and last name.. he also has his eyes..his slow walk, his greek features, his perfectionist ways, his fears, his smell, his thought-process, his impatience... I am deep in the S___t....I know thank you for your imput... yes it is really hard to feel used by the best possible man... I'm sure he's the one that you want but after what he said (I reckon it must be really bad), he's not worth your time. It takes time for you to move on - it takes time to get over him. One thing you will have to do is to cut all contacts with him. It's not easy but along the way, it will help you to move on.
GPFan Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 vineandcoffee45, It sounds as if you are in shock and I suppose you are. Give yourself time to heal and try not to take any action now. Action can come later once you are over this initial shock. Take care and I wish you the best.
angie2443 Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 Someone once sugested that to get over breaking up with a boyfriend, just focus on and exaturate all his negative qualities. Everyone has them. It worked for me. It might work for you. Good luck!
LadyDi Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 Ahh, I'm sorry. That really sucks to find out on a bullentin board and realize you're reading about yourself! Did he know you read that board, maybe he wanted you to read it? Men...can't live with 'um...can't live with 'um. lol Hope you're feeling a little better as time goes on.
stillafool Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 How do you know for sure it is your MM who posted here?
Author vineandcoffee45 Posted August 3, 2008 Author Posted August 3, 2008 I just typed the whole story ..it took me like and hour..and then It did not post... I don't want to bored you anyway...so just a quick response I knew it was him because is a thread about a conversation that we had at work...he makes points about his cooworker (me) being promiscous and having a job title less than his.... Then in the marriage thread is all about trying to get input to make his marirage work...and enjoying intimacy with his wife when it has hapened... the crazy thing is that 90% of the replies tell him to leave her... The thing is..I feel I had live a lie.... COnfrontation? no, no yet.I just read it yesterday...I will see him tomorrow at work..don't know what to do... thank you for your wshes Thank you Thank you
Ally Boo Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 Please keep us posted. I am so sorry you're hurting.
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