hithere Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 I've always been fascinated if people really end up marrying the love of their life or if a lot of people had a true love - maybe broke up with that person (or had their own heartbroken) and end up marrying someone who they love but wasn't the real true love of their life. Do you think that happens more then people admit?
Trialbyfire Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 Yes, I married the man who I thought was the love of my life. Apparently not since he's now my ex-H! Perhaps I should have broken up with him and married someone else.
CaliGuy Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 Yes, I married the man who I thought was the love of my life. Apparently not since he's now my ex-H! Perhaps I should have broken up with him and married someone else. *waves at TBF* LOL
Trialbyfire Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 *waves at TBF* LOL Haha...Cali, you're such a nut.
jerbear Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 I don't know but there are two women who I could have been the love of my life. Childhood friend who I lost it to and another who I'm close with but just never happened. There was a few whom I ask to marry me and I'm still a single unmarried guy. I don't think I married the love of my life.
porter218 Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 Yes I married the love of my life. I wouldn't have felt right walking down the aisle with anyone else. Unfortunately that doesn't make our marriage a bed of roses.
Tony T Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 Yes I married the love of my life. I wouldn't have felt right walking down the aisle with anyone else. Unfortunately that doesn't make our marriage a bed of roses. Is it at all possible to marry someone we love, maybe not the love of our lives, and have it be somewhat a bed of roses? What I am really asking is why screw up a nice life with marriage if the person we marry is going to bring us down? So we can marry the love of our lives and it can still be less than happy? What are we doing?
porter218 Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 Is it at all possible to marry someone we love, maybe not the love of our lives, and have it be somewhat a bed of roses? What I am really asking is why screw up a nice life with marriage if the person we marry is going to bring us down? So we can marry the love of our lives and it can still be less than happy? What are we doing? That is exactly what I started to think when the sh*t hit the fan with my H. Maybe I should have settled for something less then the love of my life?? But really I realized that is just something I would have never been able to do, I still hold out hope that my future with my H will be fabulously fulfilling. When we are happy it is a high that is unexplainable, and as the years go by it gets better.
HokeyReligions Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 I've been with my husband for over 25 years. Other than my children and my dogs - I have yet to meet the love of my life.
movingonandon Posted August 9, 2008 Posted August 9, 2008 I think that "the love of my life" is a HORRIBLE concept, responsible for a great deal of frustration and misery. The problem is that the people who believe in this mostly wait for the love of their life to somehow discover them and sort of happen to them, which is NUTS. Think of it: all people you have fallen in love with, you have most likely encountered by PURE CHANCE. Why and how you fell in love with them has to do how you interactions and then relationship evolved, the choice and commitments you made to each other - not because some cosmic powers aligned to present you with the love of your life. So to wait for the love of one's life simly means delegating responsibility for your feelings to uncontrollable chance events. If this looks appealing to some, it is not for me. I am pretty sure that the barista I was flirting just minutes ago could end up being the love of my life, and so could be any of the other women I interacted with today...
Crestfallen_KH Posted August 9, 2008 Posted August 9, 2008 I did! And now I get to find the next love of my life.
celinedion1 Posted August 9, 2008 Posted August 9, 2008 I've always been fascinated if people really end up marrying the love of their life or if a lot of people had a true love - maybe broke up with that person (or had their own heartbroken) and end up marrying someone who they love but wasn't the real true love of their life. Do you think that happens more then people admit? I used to think that you could just have 1 but maybe you could have more then that. I think that my current ex was the love of my life however I guess that only time will tell. I dont know if we'll end up together or not but whenever we are together it feels so right, like we're ment to be together and will end up together. However there are some things that are keepings us apart (mainly me not having a job, and he being totally irresponsible with money). I do think that a lot of people end up marrying someone other than the love of their life.
0hpenelope Posted August 9, 2008 Posted August 9, 2008 Not everyone does. Good for everyone who does marry the love of their life.
yongyong Posted August 9, 2008 Posted August 9, 2008 Honestly, what can love give to you? Feeling special? so what you can live without it. you met your first love guy who is now a plumber. are you sure you want to stick with him over a guy who is wealthy but you don't love that much? People say 'be realistic' cuz LOVE won't get you anything that you need in life.
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