Lost'n'Confused Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 Here is the story, my boyfriend and I started dating back in feb, but in june he joined the circus without telling me, and lied to me multiple times, and then left me for the carni. I was heartbroken, then only a week after he came back as if nothing had happened. I forgave him for that, so we are re-dating again. Then out of the blue he calls me and asks me if I want to merry him. I was confused and shocked, then I asked him why and he said " because I want you to be able move out of your parents house, and move-in with me and my mom." I instantly thought I don't want that to be the soul reason he wants to get merried so quickly, plus neither him nor me are financially set to get merried, and I don't want a quicky and cheapy wedding. I want it to be beautiful and luxurious. I think if he and I were financially ready, and he showed me that he can be successful and goal driven, and not a slacker, then I would do it. I already told him that I'm not ready for such a serious comitment right now and I want to be financially ready as well, but he still dragged it on. What should I do? I need some advice.
Chauncey Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 It's posts like these that make me keep coming back to these forums... I only pray this isn't a real situation...
Tony T Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 I want to sit down and cry tears of joy for you. I have never, ever heard anything more romantic than to ask someone to get merried "because I want you to be able move out of your parents house, and move-in with me and my mom." I have always wanted a gal who would merry me and come live with me and my mom. That you would even consider this....I think I am going to cry all night. This is the stuff of GREAT romance. Your story could be told in an epic Hollywood production. Have a merry day!
Angel1111 Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 I want to sit down and cry tears of joy for you. I have never, ever heard anything more romantic than to ask someone to get merried "because I want you to be able move out of your parents house, and move-in with me and my mom." I have always wanted a gal who would merry me and come live with me and my mom. That you would even consider this....I think I am going to cry all night. This is the stuff of GREAT romance. Your story could be told in an epic Hollywood production. Have a merry day! Personally, I found the running off and joining the circus thing exceptionally tear-jerking.
Angel1111 Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 Ok, he ran off without a word and joined the circus. Does he have 3 heads or something and this makes him a candidate for the circus? Just checking because I actually chuckled when I read that. Not meaning to make fun of your situation but ya gotta admit it sounds a little humorous. I would probably drop the receiver on my foot if a guy asked me to marry him so that I could move out and live with him and his mother. And you're concerned about financial security and wanting him to prove that he has drive and ambition? I can save you the suspense - what you see is what you get and you'll never see that luxurious wedding you're longing for with this guy. The ritzy wedding aside, sometimes men who are on their way to the top can't afford this, either, so I wouldn't hang too much on that. And Donald Trump is married....for now. However, I don't get the impression that 'carni guy' is anywhere in the ballpark of reaching success. Men who are ambitious usually start out that way. Not always, but the majority of the time. The ones who run off to join circuses usually are not in that category - unless, of course, their last name happens to be Barnham or Bailey....perhaps McDonald if you want to stretch it. If ambition in a man is important to you, then you should probably break it off with the circus man and start thinking about what an intelligent, ambitious man would expect in a woman, and work on attracting the kind of man you really want. Don't settle for someone that you have so many concerns about, and don't ever expect a man to change.
Jilly Bean Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 What did he do in the circus? I ask because I am seriously considering a career/life change.
torranceshipman Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 Running off to join the circus, lol Did he actually ask to merry you or marry you? Because if he ran off to the circus to be a clown he might have actually meant make you merry, not get you married :lmao: Lol really sorry, that was a bad joke, but I can't stop laughing!!
Morya El Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 I want to sit down and cry tears of joy for you. I have never, ever heard anything more romantic than to ask someone to get merried "because I want you to be able move out of your parents house, and move-in with me and my mom." I have always wanted a gal who would merry me and come live with me and my mom. That you would even consider this....I think I am going to cry all night. This is the stuff of GREAT romance. Your story could be told in an epic Hollywood production. Have a merry day! If you had a Mom like mine,you will pass the night crying of despair,my dear Tony...you will never realize the mother-in-law who is waiting for you...it's the terror...do you have an almost 46 gal?It's better than to end your life alone and abandoned,so,observe the things that are going to write the destiny: 1-Since your best friend at your work died,his soul reached me and I really discovered that I passed a lot of time unknowing a single man 'of truth'; 2-Starting that moment,his soul searched mine and I knew a man disguised of angel; 3-You have been lived these months since his dead,feeling and observing that the things between us are not the same,so,be cient: I am very tired to be an object for saving your marriage,cause you act exactly like that Englishman who sucked all my energies to use myself to save his marriage. Know that I really love you as I just tols for you,but do not expect that I pass all my life making love by thoughts with a married man like you,ok? On these days I have meditate vey much about Stan and concluded that he ,being a single man and just of my sign,he was the right man for me. it is given my warning.Gisèlle Cristina Kind Schmid-Petrópolis-Rio de Janeiro-Brasil.Here on this site under a million of different nicknames that you unknow.And I make it to see if you finally grow spiritually after the Stan's death or will pass all the rest of your life waiting by Santa Claus. Bye.marcuscristina at hotmail and the password are the years of our birthdays with four algarisms,first yours,after mine.WENT!!!!!!!
torranceshipman Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 Lord above this might officially be the weirdest thread ever!!!
Lishy Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 My mummy only ever gave me one bit of advice "Never merry a circus man" It worked for me!
Enema Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 He cheated on you with the bearded lady and now because he feels guilty he asked you to marry him. Huge red flags!
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