awesomeness43 Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 I have a girlfriend and i just went clubbing last night for a friends bday. I was just basically hanging out by the bar and talking to some friends and all of a sudden one of the more attractive female in the club that i noticed earlier started grinding me hard and dancing with me. I danced but knew i wasn't going to let it lead to anything. All of a sudden, she stops and says "Hey, you're really good looking. I have to ask you though, are you metro or gay"? I have never been called metro or gay before. Maybe only metro by friends or girls that know me. I take good care of myself and i was stunned that without saying a word to her she would assume that of me. I was wearing a tan blazer, black collar shirt jeans and dress shoes. I answered no, smiled and asked why she would think that. She cited my "clean cut image" and a good dresser as a reason + the faux hawk. ? Quite honestly, i was a little hurt. Is that considered a compliment or insult? She then asked for my phone and typed her number in and called her phone so she'd have my number. I have no intention of calling her but just found it interesting. I may be not be the typical "macho" guy. But i am completely manly, act manly, but get the occasional facial and manicures.
D-Lish Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 Take it as a compliment. Many gay men take really good care of themselves, dress really trendy, etc. Sometimes if a guy is "too" good-looking, I wonder if he might be gay. It's not an insult.
xpaperxcutx Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 Admit it, you're metro. Totally nothing wrong with that. Nothiing wrong with a guy willing to take care of himself.
Jilly Bean Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 I don't think it was a compliment OR an insult. It was just a genuine question. She clearly was attracted to you, but then was unsure of your orientation because of your very clean cut, manicured, facialed, well-dressed appearance. Let's face it, you ARE metro. Burly, mountain men aren't shopping at Barney's and getting facials and pedicures. Why do you have no intention of calling her?
Author awesomeness43 Posted August 3, 2008 Author Posted August 3, 2008 Since when was being clean cut, well kept, and well dressed considered gay? This interesting encounter really got me thinking. I am the type of guy that goes to the gym, in to sports, hangs out with the guys and all but at the same time i tend to not be the "mans man". I don't act gay/metro at all. I am well versed and am not feminine at all. Yet, when i am with friends i am a bit more open than the typical male. When the average guy would not talk or ask for opinion on situations about women he is dating. I tend to talk freely about that topic and joke around. My fashion sense is not gay what so ever although i do occasionally throw in the odd colored shirt that the average male wouldn't wear. Pink lacoste polos or vests and burberry, but it is not gay what so ever and i pull it off well and add a masculine look to it. I would understand why if maybe she knew me she would think that because i joke around about getting facials when im depressed or manicures and all. But just by looking at me and my mannerisms are masculine to think i was metro or gay was a bit confusing. I do not dress feminine at all, i don't wear super tight fitting clothes or anything. I just dress nice. How would girls sense that? I guess i always enjoyed the nicer things/brands and enjoyed taking care of myself and facials but was not really open about it. Only after i started joking around about it and that attracted many females have i been more open about facials and being in to myself. Often times i get accused of being overly cocky/in to myself. Is that considered metro? I have no issue as i always get the... "you're not like the average guy, you're real and you like chick flicks and are open with your feelings" from alot of girls and realize that my personality and look does attract them. Honestly, all guys tried to fight back tears in the notebook....
D-Lish Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 You're clearly overthinking this. Not all gay guys are sterotypically flamboyant and feminine. I have a gay friend I went to school with who is a rugged looking football coach- he looks straight as an arrow but just happens to like penis. Just the fact that you're good looking might have prompted the question. Stop worrying about it. This poor guy moved into my old building- he was a clean cut health nut with a nice car and good taste in clothes. The old lady on the first floor asked him while he was moving in- in front of his friends- if he was gay.... because he was too good looking and clean cut to be a straight guy. I knew he wasn't gay because he had checked out my rack... You just don't know nowadays- that's all. I have a funny story about a gay guy I hit on- but that is going in another thread. Lighten up about this hun!
Jilly Bean Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 I don't act gay/metro at all. But you still ARE metro. Metro guy: well dressed, discusses emotions freely, gets manicures, gets facials, etc. Hon, I believe you that you are straight, but everything else about you SCREAMS metro! BTW, I also go to the gym, love sports and hang with the guys. That doesn't make one "macho". (I hope! lol). Metro guys are like the missing link between gay best friend, and "safe" eunuch boyfriend. Nothing wrong with that - PLENTY of women find that type attractive. I just tend to date neanderthals with no emotional communication skills, desire to shave unless required, or ability to dress better than jeans and an Affliction tee-shirt.
vonerik012 Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 Manicures and facials? I would not consider that very manly.
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