Rowen Posted August 2, 2008 Posted August 2, 2008 SO Ive known this really awesome femalegirl since about february. We hung out 2-3 times per week at that time, as friends. She always talked about her problems with guys she was going out with and I would try and help her out. then, over time, she would come over to watch movies, she would cuddle up with me, put her head on my shoulder. I remember one time we hadn't seen each other in a long time, and i was waiting at the street for her, and she jumped at me to hug me. SHe went away for a bit, came back a month and a bit later. WE finally arranged to hang out again. She had been talking about a guy she was "seeing" She's been telling me she is looking for a relationship .. one with substance and not just a fling type thing, but has always been willing to take time to see what happens and what developes. Now... go forward to a few days ago. Her and I went out for dinner. It was great! We hadn't seen each other in a long time! SHe was playing pretty hardcore footsy with me the entire dinner under the table, we flirted like we usualy do, and we both enjoyed ourselves a lot! SHe lockd her arms in mine, walking down the street, I walked her home , had a nice long hug. etc. Now I will go back and mention something, I never mentioned before. Back in about... april maybe? I was saying bye to her at her house, we hugged and I just said "i need to let you know that I like you.. I'm not sure where you feel about me but I do like you' she said she was gratefull I told her that. WE continued to hang out like normal and she never really revealed if she felt the same. And me liking her kind of became an inside joke haha. I just need some advice here. I do really like the girl, and the signs at dinner exaplin to me that there is probably some affection towards be.. besides just being a friend. WE've had convos about this kind of stuff, and she always tells me she's more of an old school girl, who likes the guys to do the initiating to create a relationship. Now.. I'm terrible at this. Also a side note: I'm really not the type of guy she has ever dated.. she went through phases of bad boys that were quite bad.. but Now she's 21 (almost 22) and I hope she's turning a new leaf. I know this has been a bit of a pea soup thread.. but I Would really love some advice on how to move forward with this, without hurting our relationship if it doesn't work out that I get to date her.
carhill Posted August 2, 2008 Posted August 2, 2008 The combination of playful flirting with nothing further, along with no meaningful response when you told her you liked her, leads me to believe you are a convenient rest stop. Comfortable seats, no stress, very peaceful. This re-energizes her for the next round with the bad boys. The fact that she tells you about the bad boys reinforces the rest stop dynamic. If she was an old friend, I'd say to seriously balance the risk of losing the friendship versus showing romantic interest, presuming this is what you're feeling. For a friend of a few months, IMO, not as big a risk. Next time you hug each other when saying goodbye, firmly kiss her on the cheek, look her in the eye, thank her for a great time, and turn and go. How she reacts the next time you see each other will tell you a lot. I'm really oral so I can tell a lot about what's on a woman's mind by how she kisses. That's your next step
jadedone Posted August 2, 2008 Posted August 2, 2008 You're just a friend. Do you like games? Because you could try to deceive her a little to maybe get a reaction. The next time she wants to hang out, tell her you have a date, and you won't be able to, but maybe some other time. make her a little jealous. Make yourself appear desirable to other women.
Author Rowen Posted August 2, 2008 Author Posted August 2, 2008 You're just a friend. Do you like games? Because you could try to deceive her a little to maybe get a reaction. The next time she wants to hang out, tell her you have a date, and you won't be able to, but maybe some other time. make her a little jealous. Make yourself appear desirable to other women. Well, While she was back in her home country for over a month, I told her I had a gf.. which I actually did. She immediately got pretty jealous and starting comparing herself to her. She wanted to see a picture etc. I recently broke up with that girl... and shes asked me about this.
Author Rowen Posted August 2, 2008 Author Posted August 2, 2008 One other thing shes always told me, is that she won't let a guy know she likes him very outright.. she likes the guy to do the work for it all. I asked her straight up two weeks ago how you can tell she likes someone.. her answer was: 1.LIghter physical contact 2. Wear some nicer clothes. She didn't really dress up to hang out with me before.. but this last time she wore a nice top and nice little dress. And the physical contact was more than usual. I don't want to read too much into things, and I also don't want to look like an idiot. She also told me some things about what she likes guys to do when she likes them. It seemed a bit random. She knows I liked/like her... And I know even if she had any slight liking of me.. I would have to do the work. That's why shy likes the bad boys, becuase they are very upfront. I'm really not that way.. so as a couple of you were saying, mabye try some things that she won't expect.. like a kiss on the cheek?
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