What is wrong with me

[lance.dark]

Warning, this will be a long post. Also, please do not label me or this post as whiny. I am trying to get answers, not complain about the situation even if it comes across as such.

 

I have some real confidence problems when it comes to interacting with girls. This stems from the fact that throughout all of high school I have not had a relationship. Hell, I haven't even had a date(so no I have not kissed a girl either). Now, ok, it's just high school I realize but it still worries me a bit. I'm 18 and going off to college in a few weeks. I'm a sort of shy however I talked a lot in school. I did ask a girl out for lunch over the summer but she was leaving for Europe for the entire summer in a few days and was pretty busy the days leading up to it. The following year she didn't reciprocate any interest.

 

Now, I will post a few details about myself so you could potentially identify any problems.

 

Here is a picture - - Am I unattractive?

 

I was/am one of the best mid-distance runners/sprinters in the country in HS. I am also pretty smart and was in the county wind ensemble. I am not aggressive in the least. And I am not interested in girls just for sex, not at all. I don't drink and I don't smoke, ever. This kept me from pretty much every party that was thrown by kids at my school.

 

I am very concerned about this, even if you think it's amusing. I didn't go to prom mostly because I don't think I could have gotten a date(same with every homecoming).

 

Please evaluate and thanks in advance for any help.

[carhill]

Are you going to run in college? Like on a scholarship?

 

I ask because things will change a lot in college. If your passion is athletics, finding a lady who shares that passion would be a natural way to start a relationship. You may meet some while running at college.

 

I don't know if you remember/have read about Florence Griffith-Joyner and her husband, Al Joyner. She died tragically after an epileptic seizure in 1998, but the relationship and marriage she and her husband shared and showed to the public always held a special place in my memory. Their shared passion was running, at the highest level of the sport.

 

Confidence will come. Focus on you and remember that girls are human too and have the same fears and insecurities you see in yourself.

 

FWIW, I didn't date in high school and only went to prom because I was the yearbook photographer. How embarrassing!

[xpaperxcutx]

First of all can I say, High school expectations causes the overall percentage of teenage suicides in this country. Peer pressure blah blah blah, it's terrible.

To be honest, I didn't date much in high either, most of the people weren't worth the time and effort to bother with.

 

Now that's all said, you're 18, just the ripe age to start serial dating. I mean it's never too late to start dating, alot of college girls are actually very good relationship material, despite what you may have heard.

 

My advice for you is to work on your self confidence. You seem to assume that just because you've never kissed or dated a girl, says something about your appearance. Well, I think you have some very gorgeous eyes, my goodness, they stand out the most. You should be happy you've got the genetics from your parents, most people have to wear tinted contacts to have eyes like yours. And since you're starting college soon, how about getting a new haircut? Your hair seems a bit messy, might I assume you just got out of bed? lol Go for a stylish hair cut parted at the sides. And if you can afford it, I recommend either Proactiv or Clean and clear for stubborn acne.

[Jilly Bean]

First off, you are handsome, so relax with that.

 

Secondly, a guy I used to date about two years ago was GORGEOUS (was 25 at the time). He was very much like you, however. Had NO relationships through high school, was a nationally ranked HS athlete, and basically spent his HS years hanging with the guys.

 

He told me he was just so shy and awkward in HS, that he was more comfy in the locker room, than talking to girls.

 

When he hit college, he said it was an easier environment to socialize in. People are far less judgemental, and its not as difficult to find like-minded friends/women.

 

Just give it time. You seem to have EVERYTHING going for you. One day, you will just meet the right girl(s), or just naturally start overcoming your shyness and confidence issues. The natural maturation process will help a lot with that...

[vonerik012]

I wouldn't worry at all. When I went to high school lots of guys, including myself weren't dating. I was also concentrating on sports, which hurt my social life.