Jilly Bean Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 What about guys who don't want to sleep? Then they have to love the Red Sox...
MarisaCraig Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 You know I only sleep with Republicans, right? OP - I wouldn't be attracted to a very obsese guy. Some men may not find my massive boobs attractive, I mean, we all have our likes and dislikes, right? Doesn't make you shallow, just HONEST. What red blooded male does not find your "massive boobs" attractive? What?!
grogster Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 I'm not attracted to black men. Does that make me racist? No. Its a matter of taste and attraction. I would not meet your tastes as I am the same height as you and weigh a bit more. Are my feelings hurt? No because its silly and sophmoric to think that there is something wrong with you for not being attracted to me. If someone thinks you are a shallow a$$ let them think it - they are allowed their own opinion and you are allowed to have nothing to do with such immaturity. Now, if you go around making fun of and disrespcting people who don't fit your ideal then I'd think you a jerk -- and worse! I was going to post until I read this perfect statement. Why bother?
Dark-N-Romantic Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 You can't relaly go by weight alone, though...really it's about how they look & carry their weifght. I am 5'1" 95lbs, you'd probbaly think think I look anorexic and freaky-looking. On the contrary I don't look that way at all. My perfect height and perfect weight. I hope get a job soon so I can start making our LS flirtations more fun. But, yeah, I use to be mad about how so many women would look past me based on what I thought was irrational preferences which does not equate to love. However, when I really started looking at my own preferences, my must haves and must not haves, and realized I would not let a lot of them go, one of them being my preference for slim to athletic build women, I had to deal with the fact that this is the same thing that runs through their minds. I think it is heard sometimes to deal with preferences when you have been excluded so long from the dating field. DNR
Blue Strawberry Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 I think all is fine and good to have preferences. However, I don't believe you need to be blunt if it is anything to do with someone's appearance which is why you don't want to date them. If you get a person and you meet them and they are not your cup of tea, I would not tell him that he is too heavy or that he was overweight, I would still enjoy a cup of coffee. But after that, you just tell them you don't feel a spark or something of that nature. To tell someone straight out that they are physically flawed is not the polite and kind way to go. Most people with such physical flaws probably already realize their own physical shortcomings anyway, so why hurt them?
Blue Strawberry Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 Even the wealthiest men in the world marry waitresses. That's not really true. Men that wealthy would most likely be educated and most of them want their intellectual and emotional equal.
vonerik012 Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 Who said a waitress cant be intellectual??? I guess men aren't so shallow to equate intellectual and a job. Ask Matt Damon why he married an Argentinian bartender. If a girl is very overweight, just tell her. "i am not attracted to overweight women" If she heard this enough times, she might get a clue. Then maybe she'll do something about it. Much better than her not knowing why she is single and thinking she is a "BBW" Big Beautiful Woman. Or thinking she is just "thick" or "average" And ladies say it to men too. And yes I actually said that and it went over much better, as the girl actually recieved an honst answer and wasn't left wondering.
Blue Strawberry Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 Women who are polite and who have class, like myself, would never tell a man that.....but it sounds like politeness, class, and a good upbringing with morales aren't things that you value in women, or people, for that matter.
Mahatma Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 Here's my view on this: If you are overweight by choice, I will not only not be attracted to you for a potential relationship, but I won't respect you as much in general. People who choose to be fat and make bad choices on foods have low respect for themselves, so why would I want someone like that in my life? If you have a medical condition that causes your weight, that is a whole other story.
vonerik012 Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 Women who are polite and who have class, like myself, would never tell a man that.....but it sounds like politeness, class, and a good upbringing with morales aren't things that you value in women, or people, for that matter. Well that is a very American attitude. Try to be polite, but come off as fake. If I was interested in a woman, and she wasn't I would rather hear why, than hear "I just don't feel chemistry".
stillafool Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 Ask Matt Damon why he married an Argentinian bartender. Or, ask Tiger Woods, a Princeton graduate why he married a babysitter?
stillafool Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 Not nearly to the same extent. When have you heard of men saying a woman must at least be five foot 7? Must be a high earner? Must have a certain education? I honestly have heard men brag about their tall, blond wife who graduated from Harvard and is a V.P. Even the wealthiest men in the world marry waitresses. Men rely more so on how you treat them, than on what you can materially provide for them. Yeah, but I bet these waitresses are young and gorgeous. They aren't overweight, with varicose veins that's for sure!
lovestruck818 Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 My perfect height and perfect weight. I hope get a job soon so I can start making our LS flirtations more fun. But, yeah, I use to be mad about how so many women would look past me based on what I thought was irrational preferences which does not equate to love. However, when I really started looking at my own preferences, my must haves and must not haves, and realized I would not let a lot of them go, one of them being my preference for slim to athletic build women, I had to deal with the fact that this is the same thing that runs through their minds. I think it is heard sometimes to deal with preferences when you have been excluded so long from the dating field. DNR The problem with weight is that even the same number can look different on everyone and you have to take into consideration someone's height. 95lbs on me would look drastically different on someone who was 5'7". So you can't really use weight alone as a determining factor as to what is fat and what isn't.
stillafool Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 They probably aren't, but what is the point you are trying to make? That men should give overweight women a chance? The point I'm trying to make is that these men still want beauty they are not with the waitress just because she makes them feel good. According to some of the men who post here men are not shallow and just want a woman who will treat them well.
stillafool Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 The problem with weight is that even the same number can look different on everyone and you have to take into consideration someone's height. 95lbs on me would look drastically different on someone who was 5'7". So you can't really use weight alone as a determining factor as to what is fat and what isn't. True! I'm 5'7 and 132 lbs. People think I'm too skinny.
Blue Strawberry Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 Well that is a very American attitude. Try to be polite, but come off as fake. If I was interested in a woman, and she wasn't I would rather hear why, than hear "I just don't feel chemistry". If I have met a person once, I don't owe them an explanation if I don't want to date again. If a guy doesn't show interest after a date, either, I don't have a need to hear his explanation, either. I'm not so attached to a guy after only one date that I'm getting upset over this. If I didn't feel attracted to his hysical appearance saying 'I just don't feel chemistry' isn't really a lie, anyway. It's a more polite and it ends it firmly.
Blue Strawberry Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 The point I'm trying to make is that these men still want beauty they are not with the waitress just because she makes them feel good. According to some of the men who post here men are not shallow and just want a woman who will treat them well. Men make these posts as if there are all these educated guys going out with these waitresses and these waitresses are such a threat to us. In my dating experiences, it's not. I'm an attractive, educated woman though. Men in my experiences, want someone at least with a college degree, because I am dating men with college degrees.
Blue Strawberry Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 Well, she was also a model and you don't know what her educational background is at all. Or, ask Tiger Woods, a Princeton graduate why he married a babysitter?
Riley Freeman Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 no it does not. You want what you want and theres nothing wrong with that. but just dont be closed minded if you find a good girl who happends to be out of your size
Blue Strawberry Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 Yes, Riley, that is the thing, when you have "strict" requirements and refuse to open your mind to others, you might miss out. I have fallen for men before that I normally wouldn't fit my ideal, but other qualities came out and I liked them for them. Personally I myself am not interested in overweight men since I keep myself in shape, though. but maybe if you met some woman who was getting over an injury and had put on a few pounds...and she is going to lose it when she is completely recovered....then a few months later after you rejected her, you run into her at the mall looking slim and trim...then you want to go out with her, and she says "Hail no, you didn't want me a few months ago, you don't get me now."
vonerik012 Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 Yes, Riley, that is the thing, when you have "strict" requirements and refuse to open your mind to others, you might miss out. I have fallen for men before that I normally wouldn't fit my ideal, but other qualities came out and I liked them for them. Personally I myself am not interested in overweight men since I keep myself in shape, though. but maybe if you met some woman who was getting over an injury and had put on a few pounds...and she is going to lose it when she is completely recovered....then a few months later after you rejected her, you run into her at the mall looking slim and trim...then you want to go out with her, and she says "Hail no, you didn't want me a few months ago, you don't get me now." Ok, now you know exactly how American men feel, who went from modest means, to wealth. Oh, Now i can have you since I have a nice home, nice car, and nice lifestyle? lol Thanks but not thanks. I'll take the hot younger foreign girl..
Blue Strawberry Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 Uh, I was just giving an example. I wasn't saying that was me. It's not like women don't need to be physically attracted to the guy, either, just like a man has to be to the woman. Just because a guy is American, he will still have to be attractive to get one of those hot foreign women.
vonerik012 Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 LOL.. Look at women... Money makes up for looks.
Blue Strawberry Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 Ha, ha,no. Women have the same physical needs as men. They don't want tosleep with a man without being physically attracted to them,just like men. You are so stupid if you believe otherwise.
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