HotTamale Posted August 2, 2008 Posted August 2, 2008 Dear Readers, I posted a thread earlier this wk, so if you havnt read it, read it so that you can understand this thread. CONTINUATION FROM LAST THREAD.. Now mom is accusin my bf for cheating on me and giving me an STD. Now where is she getting this info from? Well it isnt valid because an STD is not in my vocab and i in no way carry one, even atfter showing her my results. What is her problem? and she constantly tells me that my bf is cheating on me and is broke as heck. I know she hates him, but damn she tries her best to break up a happy couple. is she jealous? can someone please help me? p.s. i am going to college in a wk, this is the start of my jr yr and she is deciding to keep my car here at home due to the fact that she believes i will go and see my bf whenever. now i was a sophomore at another college last yr and had mar car, but yet the campus was an hr and a half away while my current school is 40mins away. Whats the diff, i left to see him still.. why is my mom actin this way and im 22 yrs old??
LucreziaBorgia Posted August 2, 2008 Posted August 2, 2008 Perhaps something in this guy reminds her of mistakes she made with someone similar in her own past. I have to admit, if I saw my daughter going down some of the same paths I did with similar guys I'd probably try to intervene too. Not because I am jealous, or spiteful - but because I would do anything in my power to prevent her heart from being shattered like mine was at various times. It isn't easy to see it from her perspective, I'm sure - but generally speaking if a parent is interfering like that there is usually a reason that is valid to them: usually protectiveness. Understand that your mother has seen things through to the end that she may think she sees you going through now, and probably wants to keep you from being hurt. That said, she really has to understand something: your future is not her past. Regardless of what triggers this boy trips in her, he is not simply someone to map her projections onto based on her past. How to tell her that? Hard to say. From what you've posted it isn't likely that she'll listen or compromise. You might find it helpful to get in touch with the counseling center at your school (if there is one, and there usually is) and see if there is someone there who can help you come up with some strategies to untangle your life from your mother's wishes.
Staring Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 Dear Readers, I posted a thread earlier this wk, so if you havnt read it, read it so that you can understand this thread. CONTINUATION FROM LAST THREAD.. Now mom is accusin my bf for cheating on me and giving me an STD. Now where is she getting this info from? Well it isnt valid because an STD is not in my vocab and i in no way carry one, even atfter showing her my results. What is her problem? and she constantly tells me that my bf is cheating on me and is broke as heck. I know she hates him, but damn she tries her best to break up a happy couple. is she jealous? can someone please help me? p.s. i am going to college in a wk, this is the start of my jr yr and she is deciding to keep my car here at home due to the fact that she believes i will go and see my bf whenever. now i was a sophomore at another college last yr and had mar car, but yet the campus was an hr and a half away while my current school is 40mins away. Whats the diff, i left to see him still.. why is my mom actin this way and im 22 yrs old?? I would ask your self this... if your moms methods are dishonest why would her motive? Just tell your mom you want to stay with him... 22 year olds should be detached from their mother right?
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