Author likestolaugh Posted August 30, 2008 Author Posted August 30, 2008 oh definitely boil. Always boil first... I don't know him, so I don't know which he'd prefer... but I'd say it's ALWAYS better to meet in person. I'd say most guys would rather meet in person, in fact. Phone, txt, email, etc... are so impersonal...
LionLover Posted August 30, 2008 Posted August 30, 2008 In person, I agree. Besides, my chicken is about to burst (haha that was funny after I said it) Yes, phone IS impersonal. I wonder then how I will arrange to see him, of course he can come see me without notice or pre-arrangement because we won't be "dating" & as a bf he can come over unannounced.
Author likestolaugh Posted August 30, 2008 Author Posted August 30, 2008 why not just arrange a place to meet up? Something where you guys can have an opportunity to talk...? I'd do it as soon as possible however... I hate to throw out the "let things flow" (since I've gotten that), but why not? He's not really a BF yet is he? You can date without being GF and BF... and that's really the best way to become those things anyway. I've always been a proponent of not overthinking things (although you certainly can't tell from this thread lol), especially if both people are on the same page (as it sounds like you both are now, thankfully)... I'm hoping you'll now find some peace with your situation. things are looking up!
LionLover Posted August 30, 2008 Posted August 30, 2008 Arrange a place to meet up, yes, whichever he prefers at this point. I don't know if he's working or not so perhaps call him tomorrow. Do you think that's a good time to call? Well yes we can date towards bf/gf if that's what he is most comfortable with for now but I'm not sure if he expects/wants either of us to date other people during that time or what exactly so I guess we need to clarify that. Si' Si'!
Author likestolaugh Posted August 30, 2008 Author Posted August 30, 2008 sure! Well maybe call him in the evening when you're sure he won't be working? But it doesn't really matter... all that matters is that you get in touch with him. Let me know how it goes!
LionLover Posted August 30, 2008 Posted August 30, 2008 Well I called him but he didn't answer, I didn't leave a message because I've left messages before & he didn't respond to them so I'd feel stupid leaving another one. He might be busy so I'll just wait to hear back if he decides/is able to call.
Author likestolaugh Posted August 30, 2008 Author Posted August 30, 2008 good call on not leaving a message... you totally lose control over the situation that way... I'm sure you'll be able to get in touch sooner rather than later...
LionLover Posted August 30, 2008 Posted August 30, 2008 I'm not really concerned with that, I didn't leave a message because I've left a few messages for him over the past couple of weeks & they've gone unreturned so if he wants to call me back he will. If he doesn't want to call back then it's his choice not to. Yes, I'm sure he'll phone me back at some point.
Author likestolaugh Posted August 31, 2008 Author Posted August 31, 2008 or, if for some unknow reason you can't in touch with him electronically, you could always just drop by sometime (at his work I mean)... of course, play it so that it doesn't look desperate or anything...
LionLover Posted August 31, 2008 Posted August 31, 2008 I would but he works different shifts & they change all the time so don't know when he's on duty/off duty. He recently emailed me & suggested I call when he wasn't busy, & I did. Like I said, he’s not obligated to call me back, but I followed through with what I said I'd do, so I hope he is able to follow through as well. We have to be able to rely on each other's word & start the process to achieve that. I believe he has off from work tonight, I was hoping to hear back from him earlier in the day so that we could arrange to meet up. But he didn't call back & not sure what he expected me to do as far as suggesting plans, meeting up, etc. I won't be posting back on here tonight as my gal friend asked me to do something & I recently spoke with her on the phone so I am going to be heading out.
Author likestolaugh Posted August 31, 2008 Author Posted August 31, 2008 ok, have fun tonight! so yeah... I suppose evenings are the best time to contact him...
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