CHANTRESS Posted August 2, 2008 Posted August 2, 2008 I'm a hairdresser...I own a salon...and a big percentage of my clients are men. I am usually strictly business at work. I know I have to set an example for my employees.....Anyway... since my whole dilemma, I have been noticing how men interact with me at work. Sometimes I THINK they are flirting with me, but I'm not sure. Most guys are too shy to come right and say anything. Maybe because they are regular customers? Not sure....so reading them is kind of "iffy". So...for the guys...have you ever asked your hairdresser out? Or been interested in them? If so how did you approach them? Just wondering if I am missing the signals..lol. Sometimes I am just in "work mode"...and am really just NOT getting it, silly as that sounds... Thanks!!
foxh1234 Posted August 2, 2008 Posted August 2, 2008 It seemed really simple to me, but I'm not shy. I dated a girl that cut my hair for a couple of months. I just asked her if she had a BF and then I said I would love to take her out for dinner sometime. She accepted and we dated for awhile. Chances are, if you think they are interested, they are. We are not that complicated, lol. Or at least I'm not.
Author CHANTRESS Posted August 2, 2008 Author Posted August 2, 2008 Thanks Fox...I have been asked out at work before..and it IS kind of hard not to feel attracted to some guys, especially being in such close proximity of someone..and touching them Some guys are harder to read than others I guess...but I guess it might come down to them being shy or afraid of rejection. I have to say though I admire a guy who has the confidence to ask and risk the rejection.
carhill Posted August 2, 2008 Posted August 2, 2008 I've got the hots for my hair stylist. Of course, she's also my wife Seriously, she's told me of numerous male clients who flirt with her. Some are innocent and fun; others are "creepy". She usually fires the latter. I'm sure, if she were single, she wouldn't have a problem fraternizing with a client. She doesn't own the salon, but I don't see that (being the owner) as a major issue. The salon owner is entitled to a social life, too, no? Normal flirtation rules apply. I think you know when a man finds you attractive Adding, furthering business by taking clients to lunch is SOP. My wife does this, especially her chemical service clients (some of the guys are more anal about their hair than the ladies). Just mix a little pleasure with business
Author CHANTRESS Posted August 2, 2008 Author Posted August 2, 2008 Hahaha Carhill....somehow saying the word "guy and "anal" in the same sentence is funny...better to use the word "metrosexual"...LOL And yeah, as the owner, it is hard for me to date clients. I always thought the two didnt mix...but I get a lot of business men, as well as married men who are looking to "supplement" their marriage...ick. So it's the good the bad and the ugly!!
Author CHANTRESS Posted August 2, 2008 Author Posted August 2, 2008 And this is off topic, but how many posts do I need before PM's are enabled?
jerbear Posted August 2, 2008 Posted August 2, 2008 So...for the guys...have you ever asked your hairdresser out? Or been interested in them? If so how did you approach them? Just wondering if I am missing the signals..lol. Sometimes I am just in "work mode"...and am really just NOT getting it, silly as that sounds.. Guys flirt regardless and if you think they are, they are. I never asked my hairdresser out but did consider her fellow hairdressers. Funny thing, I need a hair cut and a hairdresser just started posting... See that is a flirting gesture. And this is off topic, but how many posts do I need before PM's are enabled? I don't remember but it was like 50 posts or something. You can also subscribe and get a larger "mailbox" and instant gratification. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/subscribe/ For a moment there, I thought you wanted to ask me out over PM!? :lmao::bunny: Anyway good posting.
Touche Posted August 2, 2008 Posted August 2, 2008 And this is off topic, but how many posts do I need before PM's are enabled? Over one hundred I think. And over one month. It's a mystery. No one knows. Are you the brunette in the front?
Author CHANTRESS Posted August 2, 2008 Author Posted August 2, 2008 Over one hundred I think. And over one month. It's a mystery. No one knows. Are you the brunette in the front? Thanks!!! No..I'm the third blonde in the white.
jerbear Posted August 2, 2008 Posted August 2, 2008 oh yeah, when you reach 100 or the mysterious PM cut off point. You will have to enable PM's in your profile. My Profile then Edit Options http://www.loveshack.org/forums/profile.php?do=editoptions You're getting there in posts!
Touche Posted August 2, 2008 Posted August 2, 2008 Thanks!!! No..I'm the third blonde in the white. You're gorgeous, Chantress! Looks like all your g/f's are gorgeous too.
Author CHANTRESS Posted August 2, 2008 Author Posted August 2, 2008 Awww thanks Touche!!!! It's funny...I realize I have almost NO pics of me by myself..LOL
Touche Posted August 2, 2008 Posted August 2, 2008 Awww thanks Touche!!!! It's funny...I realize I have almost NO pics of me by myself..LOL Then maybe you have no problem making female friends.
Author CHANTRESS Posted August 2, 2008 Author Posted August 2, 2008 Well, I work with all females...much of it is work related. I think it's as hard to find female friends as it is a good GUY!!!
Touche Posted August 2, 2008 Posted August 2, 2008 Well, I work with all females...much of it is work related. I think it's as hard to find female friends as it is a good GUY!!! Really? I don't think so. A good guy is WAY easier to find than a good female friend. No two ways about that.
jerbear Posted August 2, 2008 Posted August 2, 2008 Really? I don't think so. A good guy is WAY easier to find than a good female friend. No two ways about that. I have to agree with this. Guy friends are much easier to find versus a female friend. As a guy, sometimes there are different ideas when a guy and gal are friends hanging out. It is much easier to be friends with a bunch of guys or a bunch of gals. Most of my female friends are those I've known for many years since I was a teen. Much easier to maintain than recent meet a greets.
Touche Posted August 2, 2008 Posted August 2, 2008 JB, no offense but I never know what the eff you're talking about. (Am I the only one?)
carhill Posted August 2, 2008 Posted August 2, 2008 Translation = men are simple creatures. Women are not. Familiarity over a long time mitigates this disparity, for some IME, male same sex friendships are emotionally much more superficial than those amongst women. Hence, easier to maintain and/or replace. None of this helps the OP though, since she wants to date a client, I presume
sao2 Posted August 2, 2008 Posted August 2, 2008 While your customers may find you attractive, many guys I know consider hairdresser's "hired guns". In much the same vein as waitresses, bartenders, and baristas. The two common threads are 1) you all make money based on whether we like you or not. 2) during the time we are in contact you have to deal with us. In these situations it is easy to flirt but it takes either a lot of confidence or a lot of return flirting before the guy will ask you out. That said I have in the past asked a couple of girls out under these situations, neither was interested but oh well. In any case, the point I am trying to make is that you can use this to your advantage because you are a "safe" person for shy(actually any) guys to flirt with. Flirt away, if the guys don't ask you out you can always remember that your flirting is part of a construct that most reasonable men understand is acceptable even if no interest is present.
ioncebelieved Posted August 2, 2008 Posted August 2, 2008 I guess there are a few ways to look at it Chant.. For me, anyone in the service industry really has to be nice enough, but if you are trying too hard it looks like you are sucking up for a big tip. There have been several women including hair dressers that I would have asked out. So it is a fine line between being attracted to someone against trying to get a tip. Fellows will low self esteem will have a hard time distinguishing the two. BTW, the crew in your pics look like a Motley bunch!!! You guys could get into some trouble!!!
jerbear Posted August 2, 2008 Posted August 2, 2008 JB, no offense but I never know what the eff you're talking about. (Am I the only one?) Good question. If I spend time with a woman, it can be construed as a date. If I spend time with a guy, it would be considered like hanging out with the guys. If I spend time with a bunch of women, it can be construed as I'm a cock blocker or part of the girls. If I spend time with a bunch of guys, it would be considered like hanging out with the guys..
jerbear Posted August 2, 2008 Posted August 2, 2008 Who's doing the construing and considering? It depends on the situation.
BentSpine Posted August 2, 2008 Posted August 2, 2008 I have to say though I admire a guy who has the confidence to ask and risk the rejection. Don't. Because it's easier to risk rejection when I don't value the woman enough. But if I did truly value her, rejection would hurt. So to minimise that I will spend enough time with her to feel if we connect first.
CaliGuy Posted August 2, 2008 Posted August 2, 2008 I'm a hairdresser...I own a salon...and a big percentage of my clients are men. I am usually strictly business at work. I know I have to set an example for my employees.....Anyway... since my whole dilemma, I have been noticing how men interact with me at work. Sometimes I THINK they are flirting with me, but I'm not sure. Most guys are too shy to come right and say anything. Maybe because they are regular customers? Not sure....so reading them is kind of "iffy". So...for the guys...have you ever asked your hairdresser out? Or been interested in them? If so how did you approach them? Just wondering if I am missing the signals..lol. Sometimes I am just in "work mode"...and am really just NOT getting it, silly as that sounds... Thanks!! I've wanted to a few times but I usually don't as it's always an uncomfortable situation to be in. Men think in their mind "she gets hit on all the time, why would *I* be different?!" So they may be flirting to see if you are receptive and if you don't act receptive, they won't move any further.
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