MinusTwo Posted August 1, 2008 Posted August 1, 2008 Hey everyone, I'm just wondering if you would consider a 1 and a half hour drive long distance? Now I know there are many of you who live significantly further, and will automatically think this is a ludicrous question. However, I truly am curious. I work 5 days a week, long hours, normally 9-7/8ish. So I'm worried that I might not have much time to drive out to see her, and vice versa (she's a student). We're living in the same place now, but she'll be moving about an hour and a half away. I'm wondering if you all think this distance would be enough to kill a relationship? Otherwise I would seriously consider moving to the same city as her. I do not, however, know a single person there, and it would be kind of unfortunate of things did not work out for one reason or the other... Thanks in advance for your input!
taiko Posted August 1, 2008 Posted August 1, 2008 90 minutes is my average commute. In my opinion if you can see each other on a regular basis without making special plans it is not a LDR. If you must get time off from work, book hotel rooms, must take a flight or flying, with all the security delays, takes less time then driving then you are in a LDR.
Chinook Posted August 1, 2008 Posted August 1, 2008 I agree with Taiko. 90 minutes is probably do-able on some occasions during the week if you have nothing else to be doing and maybe finish early at work. But I think you might find that the mid-week stuff gets replaced with phonecalls, emails, msn etc. The highs will come Friday evening through to Sunday. Or if you're really organised, Monday morning - you can go straight to work from her place. So Monday evening through to Friday morning isn't so bad... plus you both have work to concentrate on. Really it just means being a little more organised about things.
PG Love Posted August 1, 2008 Posted August 1, 2008 I would consider it a LDR, maybe not a true LDR. I am currently 2 hours from my BF and we do the weekend thing and try and hit some days through the week. He has to be at work at 7am so he usually leaves my house at 445am, so not a lot of those mornings. Good luck and if you really love her and are willing to make it work I say go for the move. My BF is currently trying to find a job in my area so we can close the 2 hour gap and be together.
Karyyk Posted August 1, 2008 Posted August 1, 2008 Well, it's long-distance enough, but it sure as heck beats 12 hours... I've made hour-long commutes to get to college and work in the past, so I wouldn't consider it such a sacrifice for someone you care about (and it's really not that inconvenient, other than losing a little sleep on the long drives back home).
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