justme13 Posted August 1, 2008 Posted August 1, 2008 Ok, so here's the deal, this guy and I have a mutual liking for each other, but the thing is, I just turned 22 and he will be 18 in 8 months. I know, I know, but sometimes you just can't help who you like. Anyway, we've talked about the age differance and of course HIS first thought was that he didn't want to get me in trouble. His mom knows everything and is pretty open, so that's not the problem. The law is what stands in the way. Sexual anything isn't even in the equation, so that's something I need not worry about, but that aside, how exceptable is it for a relationship of that age differance? Please no bashing. Thanks.
Keridan Posted August 1, 2008 Posted August 1, 2008 I don't personally see anything wrong with it. It's not an extreme age difference. In a few years, no one would even notice it. Usually the downside of lopsided relationships is the vast difference in experience levels and expectations. Things aren't that different between 18 and 22. And I don't know what state you are in, but several have an age of consent lower than 18. Others have a five year rule. If the age difference is less than 5 years, yer okay. It might be worth looking into. Either way, if sex isn't the problem, then there is nothing illegal about it. Just take it slow and have fun. By the time it gets too serious, he will likely be 18 anyway
Author justme13 Posted August 1, 2008 Author Posted August 1, 2008 Thanks. I know that in a few years it won't even matter anymore, but I also know that a lot of people would look down on it right now. He's 4 years, 11 months younger than me. I don't know if that 5 year rule exists in my state, but I will definitely look into it. He understands that protecting me is one of the top priorities if our relationship is to develop. So, as long as things stay PG-13, all should be good, right? or is that even pushing it?
JohnnyBlaze Posted August 1, 2008 Posted August 1, 2008 There's just over four years gap; that's nothing. As was mentioned, you might want to look into the laws before anything goes beyond PG-13 (or move to Canada - the age is 14!). Like Kedrian said, if this happened two years from now and he was 20 and you were 24, nobody would even consider it to be bad. It's not like you're playing Mrs. Robinson on him here; you two probably share the same tastes in things. Personally, I don't see anything bad about it. You like him and he likes you. So go for it!
Keridan Posted August 1, 2008 Posted August 1, 2008 Thanks. I know that in a few years it won't even matter anymore, but I also know that a lot of people would look down on it right now. He's 4 years, 11 months younger than me. I don't know if that 5 year rule exists in my state, but I will definitely look into it. He understands that protecting me is one of the top priorities if our relationship is to develop. So, as long as things stay PG-13, all should be good, right? or is that even pushing it? You're fine whatever you do with him as long as there isn't pressure and you are responsible. 18 is a somewhat arbitrary age chosen by our government, really. I don't deny that a line has to be drawn somewhere on many things, but when he's that close and you aren't so far beyond it, there really isn't anything wrong. It's nice that you take the time to think it through, but I suspect you are going too far with that. Don't talk yourself out of what could be a lot of fun because of such a small age difference. All the best to ya!
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