oohsoconfused Posted August 1, 2008 Posted August 1, 2008 ugh! am i wrong in thinking that well, my bf (of 8 months now) should want to spend more than one day a week with me? Ok, fair enoguh we work together and therefore have the luxury of having lunch together - taking little breaks, chatting on IM when not busy........-the whole working together (we work in different departments and if we didn't make an effort we could go the entire day without seeing each other) but that's not real life? I mean you can only do so much while on break for lunch (which is basically eat and go back to the office - and sometimes we are with other friends) and today for instance i told him i was having a reallllllly crappy day, wanted and needed to get out etc......i then ask him what he is doing tonight, as i'd like to know if he is free to do something...he says no plans really but is bogged with work and might work late etc. but what did i have in mind? Well at the end of day he says that's it and he is going to take off yet doesn't express any interest in doing anything. I really just needed a shoulder to cry on. it's been a bit of a rough patch for me and i need the support. i'm a bit miffed - am i entitled really to feel that way or should i just let it slide?
sid3 Posted August 1, 2008 Posted August 1, 2008 Someone wanting to only see you once a week while at work is lame.
Author oohsoconfused Posted August 1, 2008 Author Posted August 1, 2008 i thought so........ok, in all fairness, sometimes we do get together a couple of times in a week and a few weeks ago we were able to spend a couple of weeks together...it just kind of sucks to come off that "high" that wonderful time to barely having any time outside of work together. I'm looking for another job - unrelated - i just do not like what i do anymore, management changes etc. and it makes me a bit nervous...although i am wondering if maybe not having that luxury might make him want to get out of his own littl world a bit more and involve me. i know we both have situations and pressures in our lives right now.......but i dont know, i guess i was kind of hoping he would have got the hint and wanted to be there for me tonight.......! i guess i am just venting......
CommitmentPhobe Posted August 1, 2008 Posted August 1, 2008 I don't understand how you can see someone for 8 months and not be able to talk this through with them...why can't you tell him?
Author oohsoconfused Posted August 1, 2008 Author Posted August 1, 2008 i have mentioned it here and there, but i also don't want to look like a super needy nag!
CommitmentPhobe Posted August 1, 2008 Posted August 1, 2008 i have mentioned it here and there, but i also don't want to look like a super needy nag! Nag? He should want to see you when he can because he can, because you're his girlfriend. You're supposed to be something in his life that's good and that he can't get enough of. And if you have to nag him for that something isn't right.
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