Author Jilly Bean Posted August 3, 2008 Author Posted August 3, 2008 hello Jilly Bean I have lurked here for a long time and know your story and I'm so sorry he's doing this. I hope he pulls a groin muscle in training camp.:mad: being a guy I think he's desperate to have you come running to try and stop him. I can understand the urge but to actually do it this way,,,not right. I've seen your avatar showing your legs:love:,,,,,,he's probably going insane not having access to them anymore.:cool: Aw, thanks, Die Hard! Such nice things to say... I really don't wish him ill. At first, I was just agog. Then I was WAY pissed at his actions, and now I am just sad. I am just totally, profoundly sad. The consensus is that he did this as an eff u to me, but mainly so that it would smoke me out and make me come back running. So, you're right. Thanks for the leg compliment! He actually was a boob man - lol.
Lishy Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 OK JB, I have a plan He is a boob man right? and he is trying to get you agrivated and jealous right? Send a casual message back to his mum that you are happy that he is getting married but you cant talk as you are on your way to get your boobs done as big as your tv! He will be so gutted!!!!!!!!!!!!
mokie114 Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 as i'm not a psychologist (my father was, since retired), take this with a rather large grain of salt. I've actually done something similar. I was involved with a girl for a year and a half (very abusive relationship, she manipulated me constantly), was dumped and dated another girl (and fell madly in love with her). Girl #2 dumped me for HER ex, and i was gutted. One day i called up girl #1 and drove 120 miles to her house to get back together with her. about halfway through the night i realized how big of a mistake it was, and that i no longer had feelings for her, but i was just looking to replace #2. this sounds a lot like what baller is/was feeling. as for the psychology, I was diagnosed with anxiety problems and bipolar patterns after that incident happened. I started on zoloft and no longer had these huge swings or impulses. often with bipolar disorder, the person will go into a very manic and impulsive state and do things (such as get engaged) only to find themselves regretting it on the emotional downswing. With all that is involved in becoming an NFL player, i wouldn't be surprised that he's going through that phase i went through in high school. honestly i'd tell his mother or sister to have him see someone. as someone who works on a daily basis with various professional sports leagues (like the NBA and NFL), i know for a fact that each team has a staff therapist for just such an occasion. he should probably see them. they may be able to talk him out of this foolish move. instead of being angry and not caring, maybe it would help you feel a little better if you helped him by helping his family convince him to get some help, or letting them know that there is help available for him.
Author Jilly Bean Posted August 4, 2008 Author Posted August 4, 2008 as i'm not a psychologist (my father was, since retired), take this with a rather large grain of salt. I've actually done something similar. I was involved with a girl for a year and a half (very abusive relationship, she manipulated me constantly), was dumped and dated another girl (and fell madly in love with her). Girl #2 dumped me for HER ex, and i was gutted. One day i called up girl #1 and drove 120 miles to her house to get back together with her. about halfway through the night i realized how big of a mistake it was, and that i no longer had feelings for her, but i was just looking to replace #2. this sounds a lot like what baller is/was feeling. as for the psychology, I was diagnosed with anxiety problems and bipolar patterns after that incident happened. I started on zoloft and no longer had these huge swings or impulses. often with bipolar disorder, the person will go into a very manic and impulsive state and do things (such as get engaged) only to find themselves regretting it on the emotional downswing. With all that is involved in becoming an NFL player, i wouldn't be surprised that he's going through that phase i went through in high school. honestly i'd tell his mother or sister to have him see someone. as someone who works on a daily basis with various professional sports leagues (like the NBA and NFL), i know for a fact that each team has a staff therapist for just such an occasion. he should probably see them. they may be able to talk him out of this foolish move. instead of being angry and not caring, maybe it would help you feel a little better if you helped him by helping his family convince him to get some help, or letting them know that there is help available for him. Thanks for sharing your story, Mokie. I do think that was the purpose of his actions. I don't think he's in danger of going over the deep end, however. It was just a butthead, childish move. BTW, he has been in the NFL for a number of years, so he is pretty used to the pressure. I'm sure he's taking it out on the field now... His family is well aware of what he is doing, and why. I know they are giving him all kinds of grief about it. They are all so close, they would never let him to anything really foolish (like this! lol), or would let him slide, mentally speaking, so I really don't need to get involved. Also, because that's exactly what he wants. I think coming to me and telling me how heartbroken he was by the breakup, and how he would do anything to keep it going, would have had a much greater impact and result than doing something like this. This move just makes me feel like he ruined anything that was left.
Lishy Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 I think he has made the biggest mistake of his life ........ I just wonder if he knows that yet! He has cheapened what you had and you will never forget that! What a silly shame
Author Jilly Bean Posted August 4, 2008 Author Posted August 4, 2008 I think he has made the biggest mistake of his life ........ I just wonder if he knows that yet! He has cheapened what you had and you will never forget that! What a silly shame Aw, thanks, Lishy! That's nice of you to say. I am sure after getting hit in the head a few times early in the season it may sink it. That's really what bothers me the most, really. Break-ups always suck, but when someone does something so damaging and acrimonious, it leaves one feeling it has all been nullified. It's like I have no desire to ever talk to him again - I honestly have nothing to say.
Lishy Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 I don't blame you JB - He will realise soon though and I have a feeling he will be calling you soon
Art_Critic Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 I don't blame you JB - He will realise soon though and I have a feeling he will be calling you soon We always do... Each time I messed up and made a mess out of something good I would go crawling back.. I wish I wasn't a guy sometimes..
Author Jilly Bean Posted August 4, 2008 Author Posted August 4, 2008 I wish I wasn't a guy sometimes.. And lately, I wish I wasn't attracted to you all...
Art_Critic Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 And lately, I wish I wasn't attracted to you all... There is always Whichwayisup.. I hear she is looking for some girl on girl action
Lishy Posted August 4, 2008 Posted August 4, 2008 And lately, I wish I wasn't attracted to you all... Surely you are not attracted to em all???????? Awwww Art I cannot imagine you messing things up, you are always so logical and sweet!
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