PhoenixFromTheFlames Posted July 31, 2008 Posted July 31, 2008 Yesterday was a really bad day. I found a post that hit a nerve. It reignited all the old questions in my head. It’s not the first time a post has triggered something or provided a fresh perspective, but it was the biggest set-back I’ve had in a while. It felt like day one all over again. I’m emotionally exhausted today. I’ve literally had enough of feeling this way. It’s made me realise that I’m indulging in behaviours that stop me moving on. I stay here to avoid truly letting go. I have built a new routine now which forces me to focus on the break-up everyday. If I’m not searching through forums like this, I’m reading self help books and advice columns, writing him letters he’ll never read, or simply imagining what I’d say if I saw him again. The motivation is to get over him, but it’s impossible to forget when my day revolves around the break up. I need to draw a line under the relationship and break-up. I don’t need to talk about it anymore. Nothing has changed at all since he left; there have been no updates to my tale of woe. It is what it is and has been for the past 4 months. I’m only hurting myself. I need a new beginning. Tomorrow is both the start of a new month and a solar eclipse, so a great day for starting afresh. For the next month I will change my whole routine and see if it helps me really let go. This includes banning myself from this forum and similar sites and using the time to do something constructive and positive. No more letters, no more books, no more anything that brings the focus back to the past. I feel I have grown and learned a lot over these months, but I need to just live in the present for a little while. I just wanted to say a huge thank you to everyone who has given me advice or posted something I’ve found useful. You have helped me so much. I hope to pop back in a much healthier state of mind in a month or so.
roghornio Posted July 31, 2008 Posted July 31, 2008 LSNC! Go for it... i sometimes thinkn the same, in fact yeah i need to stop coming on here... just keeps stuff on the surface that should have sank long ago. Good luck!
northstar1 Posted July 31, 2008 Posted July 31, 2008 Yesterday was a really bad day. I found a post that hit a nerve. It reignited all the old questions in my head. It’s not the first time a post has triggered something or provided a fresh perspective, but it was the biggest set-back I’ve had in a while. It felt like day one all over again. I’m emotionally exhausted today. I’ve literally had enough of feeling this way. It’s made me realise that I’m indulging in behaviours that stop me moving on. I stay here to avoid truly letting go. I have built a new routine now which forces me to focus on the break-up everyday. If I’m not searching through forums like this, I’m reading self help books and advice columns, writing him letters he’ll never read, or simply imagining what I’d say if I saw him again. The motivation is to get over him, but it’s impossible to forget when my day revolves around the break up. I need to draw a line under the relationship and break-up. I don’t need to talk about it anymore. Nothing has changed at all since he left; there have been no updates to my tale of woe. It is what it is and has been for the past 4 months. I’m only hurting myself. I need a new beginning. Tomorrow is both the start of a new month and a solar eclipse, so a great day for starting afresh. For the next month I will change my whole routine and see if it helps me really let go. This includes banning myself from this forum and similar sites and using the time to do something constructive and positive. No more letters, no more books, no more anything that brings the focus back to the past. I feel I have grown and learned a lot over these months, but I need to just live in the present for a little while. I just wanted to say a huge thank you to everyone who has given me advice or posted something I’ve found useful. You have helped me so much. I hope to pop back in a much healthier state of mind in a month or so. Good for you. Sent you a PM, if you haven't already left.
motive2002 Posted August 1, 2008 Posted August 1, 2008 I remember reading a discussion about whether or not trolling LS keeps you tethered to the hurt of your past or not. I kinda look at it like a progress report. Right now I'm in waaaaay better shape than I was 3 months ago. I'm still dwelling some, but it doesn't hurt as much and I'm talking to other women again Supporting others is helpful too. You've been handed your cards, it's up to you how you want to play them.
inulg Posted August 1, 2008 Posted August 1, 2008 i dissappeared on he;re for a while simply because.... being on here constantly reminds me of the breakup, and like you said, nothing has changed... i think you have to know when its time to stop complaining and just move forward. no amount of greiving and self-help books will help you move on the way that just 'MOVING' on really does! (meaning doing stuff not related to getting over the breakup!) its hard dating, but meeting new people ALSO is a big big plus! and and stuff you've never done... like maybe SKYDIVING or something! lol that'll take your mind offa it for a LOOOONG while!
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