Angel1111 Posted July 31, 2008 Posted July 31, 2008 It's amazing. That day really does come when hearing their voice no longer has any affect on you. Right now, I'm sitting in my office and I can hear his voice over the speaker in the office next to me in a conference call meeting. And I don't feel a thing. If you don't believe it, there really does come a point when you have been hurt enough times that you just stop feeling anything about it. I'm there.
babes23 Posted July 31, 2008 Posted July 31, 2008 Well done Angel, i truly do believe that time heals all, onwards and upwards eh .
journey1 Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 Hi there....how long did it take you to not care about hearing his voic?? You helped me ina prior entry today. I saw one of your threads so I read it. I hope you tell me it only took a little while not to care about his voice. What did you feel instead??
cyabye Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 It took me about 2 months from the day she left with my kids to make a decision to move on and start feeling indifferent. You have to tell yourself, everytime he calls, email, text etc. IT WILL CAUSE ME PAIN. So don't respond. 6 mo out now, I cringe when I see she is calling for something only to be really happy when it's actually my son or daughter calling to say they love and miss me. A formula to remember: CONTACT (any kind) = PAIN = REGRET = BACK TO DAY 1! Unfortunately for myself, I HAVE to deal with the STBX for the next 11 years as we are now co-parents (still not use to that) so NC is NOT an option for me but I NEVER chit chat. Kid related stuff ONLY. The rest receives a courteous "I HAVE TO GO" or when she is ugly, a simple "CLICK". C'YA BYE
Author Angel1111 Posted August 3, 2008 Author Posted August 3, 2008 Hi there....how long did it take you to not care about hearing his voic?? You helped me ina prior entry today. I saw one of your threads so I read it. I hope you tell me it only took a little while not to care about his voice. What did you feel instead?? I'm glad I was able to help earlier. It's tough to say how long it took because we went back and forth a few times for 4 yrs. This last time around I kind of lost heart for it. I think I've been detaching for about the last year. But we remain friends and stay in touch so it has been difficult to totally break the connection. Still it's very important to both of us to remain friends (yeah, it's complicated) so I was determined to make that work. I think there just comes a point when you know there's no hope and you have hurt all you can hurt over that person.
soyou Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 I really wish that I could speed up up and reach this stage, just like you Angel. Right now, I am crawling step by step upwards. Tears, pain, hate and many other mixed feelings. Hope that I will reach your stage soon. Know that time will heal all the wounds but for me now it's not yet applied. A couple of months has passed, I am still like DAY 1. Well, but I believe it'll get better...
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