Making it official? (Kinda Long)

[sj9ers]

Ok so here's the story. I met this girl at work and we've been going out for about 3.5 weeks I guess and on like 2.5 official dates, and the rest were group hangouts with the rest of our friends from work, but we always would spend time together during them kissing holding hands doing all the couple things and stuff or go off during or after by ourselves. Everyone at work knows about us and were I guess the couple everyone talks about and a lot of my friends having been asking me if she's my girlfriend and to make it "official" already. I really like the girl and I know she cares about me and likes me but the only real problem I guess is whether or not this is just a "summer fling". See I'm 19 and gonna be a sophomore in college in the fall and she's 17 turning 18 in December and will be a senior in High School. At first the age difference bothered me, but I got over it and looked past it and now it's just that I don't know if were really gonna see each other when our schools start and how it's gonna work during the school year because this job is only a seasonal summer job and right now we share the same group of friends at work so it's pretty easy right now, but when school starts it's going to be different because she'll be with her high school friends and I'll be with my college friends. Also when people ask her about me things between me and her she says things are ok, she likes me and everything, I'm a nice guy, and that I treat right, but she says I'm too shy sometimes and she wants to break me out of my shell, although she's never talked to me about it and I know I can be a little quiet and reserved sometimes and don't take advantage of things, but in the past week with her I've gotten over it somewhat because I'm getting to know her more and I'm more comfortable with her and it's probably going to just take sometime. What I'm really trying to get at is I want me and her to be more than just a summer fling and be an actual relationship like boyfriend girlfriend type thing, and I'm pretty sure she's been waiting for me to say something because we've been spending time together when she can, we talk on the phone and text often, and she talks to me about a lot of personal stuff in her life as well. See I've never really had a real girlfriend before and this is the first time I feel I haven't screwed things up and I don't wanna lose this girl by making her wait and I just wanna know how I bring it up and what I say to her to make me and her an "official" couple I guess or does being a couple go without saying?

Thanks

[LolitaAnastasia]

Wow, it's complicated.

 

I know the feeling of saying if it is offical. Sometimes you don't even need to announce it is offical. My boyfriend and I have only just recently started refering to each other as "boyfriend" "girlfriend" to friends or people we associate with.

 

For 3 years we were friends with benefits but it's only just recently since May that we have started to "date" of course we have never spoken to say that we are an offical couple or anything.

 

Maybe just have a talk about it.

 

Good Luck.

[Keridan]

The rules on this differ big time from person to person. It all works out eventually. Maybe just ask her point blank "So do I call you my girlfriend or what?" There are much more subtle ways to do it, too. You can always tell her a story where you referred to her as yer gf and see how she responds. Or you could always do it up all cute like. Do a romantic dinner, take her to the beach or a movie or something, tell her you have a "very important question to ask", get down on your knee and ask her. No matter what route you take, you'll be fine. It sounds like the relationship is already there, it's just a matter of semantics.

[sj9ers]

The rules on this differ big time from person to person. It all works out eventually. Maybe just ask her point blank "So do I call you my girlfriend or what?" There are much more subtle ways to do it, too. You can always tell her a story where you referred to her as yer gf and see how she responds. Or you could always do it up all cute like. Do a romantic dinner, take her to the beach or a movie or something, tell her you have a "very important question to ask", get down on your knee and ask her. No matter what route you take, you'll be fine. It sounds like the relationship is already there, it's just a matter of semantics.

I was thinking about just taking her out to a movie or dinner like u said and just asking her if we're together and if were a couple because I don't want to say something like I wanna be with you and scare her off considering we just started dating. I guess I've just been assuming we were together because we haven't been talking to other people, but when friends ask me or her where's your boyfriend or girlfriend or are you guys official neither one of us really know what to say.