refurb Posted July 30, 2008 Posted July 30, 2008 I've pretty much made up my mind as to what I'm going to do, but I'm curious what others think: I started dating a girl a few weeks back. We've been out to lunch three times and gone out to dinner twice. She was quite shy to begin with, but has opened up quite a bit over the past few weeks. I pretty much initiate everything, although she did put some effort into showing interest early on (before we started dating). Things are going well (to me). I enjoy talking with her and spending time with her. However, after the last date it seems to me that things have cooled off a bit. I got a better hug after the 1st date than the last one. I told her "I really like spending time with you." To which she replied "yeah". Keep in mind she is a recent immigrant from China, so there is a bit of a language barrier. I'm used to getting a bit more feedback on how a girl is feeling. I can't read her at all. Is she interested in dating further? Or is she done? I can easily convince myself of both. My plan at this point was to stop initiating any more dates. We've gone out the last two weekends in a row. I won't be asking her to do something this weekend. We do run into each other on a regular basis, so my thought is, if she is interested she'll put some effort into showing it (she doesn't have to ask me out, just show some interest). I'm also concerned that if I don't put any more effort in, I'll be labelled as one of those jerk guys "who never called". What do you guys think? RF
jadedone Posted July 31, 2008 Posted July 31, 2008 Yeah it's a bit tricky in this case. She could be the stereotypical shy asian woman. Have you kissed her? I would give it one more date and try to kiss her if you haven't, if she resists that, then move on.
Author refurb Posted July 31, 2008 Author Posted July 31, 2008 Yeah it's a bit tricky in this case. She could be the stereotypical shy asian woman. Have you kissed her? I would give it one more date and try to kiss her if you haven't, if she resists that, then move on. I have not kissed her. She is pretty shy, especially initially. The first date was me doing most of the talking. Second date she was definitively more relaxed. Hmm.... I may give it one more go and be a lot more direct about my intentions. RF
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