What does it all mean !

[chasingrainbows25]

So I'm still hung up on this guy at work. We spend time throughout the day talking and laughing, we txt most evenings and share stuff about our families, sports team etc.

 

We did have a date planned a few weeks ago which he cancelled at the last min and although I was pretty dissapointed I was sure that there was more to it and that he'd not just decided he wasnt interested.

 

Since then we've become close again at work and even though I'd resigned myself to the fact that all we would ever be was just friends I cant help thinking that there could be something more and I dont know whats stopping him.

 

Recently he's been doing a bit of "self promoting" when we have our chats. What I mean by that is that he's always keen to tell me how good a dad he is by stories about his kids, or things that he's done at work or things from his childhood, funny, hilarious stories that have us both laughing but I get the feeling he's trying to let me know that he's a good person. I know he's a good person.

 

Today he told me about something that happened at work with a girl a few years ago, which started and ended badly, she was very demanding of his time and treated him dreadfully and he was quite embarrassed when he told me but he said that he needed to tell me as someone else would and that he wanted to tell me himself and not find out from someone else. It wasnt a bad story, actually it was quite funny when he told it but I'm now left wondering why he would tell me such a thing and was it his way of telling me to back off. I am in no way demanding and I frequently get little txt's at the end of the day saying how much he's enjoyed my company etc.

 

We're going out this saturday with our kids so we will get to spend some time together then but I have such strong feelings for this guy I want more and I'd love some time alone with him, just to look in his eyes and see whats going on there.

 

I'm a bit confused today. I think I may just ask him if it was his way of telling me to back off or not and see what he says.

 

I know that most reading this would just say, let it go, but I cant.

 

Any thoughts anyone ?

 

CR x

[sfsassy]

So I'm still hung up on this guy at work. We spend time throughout the day talking and laughing, we txt most evenings and share stuff about our families, sports team etc.

 

We did have a date planned a few weeks ago which he cancelled at the last min and although I was pretty dissapointed I was sure that there was more to it and that he'd not just decided he wasnt interested.

 

Since then we've become close again at work and even though I'd resigned myself to the fact that all we would ever be was just friends I cant help thinking that there could be something more and I dont know whats stopping him.

 

Recently he's been doing a bit of "self promoting" when we have our chats. What I mean by that is that he's always keen to tell me how good a dad he is by stories about his kids, or things that he's done at work or things from his childhood, funny, hilarious stories that have us both laughing but I get the feeling he's trying to let me know that he's a good person. I know he's a good person.

 

Today he told me about something that happened at work with a girl a few years ago, which started and ended badly, she was very demanding of his time and treated him dreadfully and he was quite embarrassed when he told me but he said that he needed to tell me as someone else would and that he wanted to tell me himself and not find out from someone else. It wasnt a bad story, actually it was quite funny when he told it but I'm now left wondering why he would tell me such a thing and was it his way of telling me to back off. I am in no way demanding and I frequently get little txt's at the end of the day saying how much he's enjoyed my company etc.

 

We're going out this saturday with our kids so we will get to spend some time together then but I have such strong feelings for this guy I want more and I'd love some time alone with him, just to look in his eyes and see whats going on there.

 

I'm a bit confused today. I think I may just ask him if it was his way of telling me to back off or not and see what he says.

 

I know that most reading this would just say, let it go, but I cant.

 

Any thoughts anyone ?

 

CR x

He is interested, but the story tells you why he is hesitant to get involved with someone from work again. He is trying to tell you, without it having it be a big confrontation or something. Maybe he also wanted you to tell him what you hae done in this situation.

[imbewildered]

So I'm still hung up on this guy at work. We spend time throughout the day talking and laughing, we txt most evenings and share stuff about our families, sports team etc.

 

 

 

I wish I could get $200 per hour for my advice here.

 

I am going to give you some FREE tips, so listen closely.

One of you has to move this thing forward - either to "the sacK ' or to oblivion.

He lacks confidence, boldness and perhaps testosterone. Who know for sure.

Why not invite him to your place for dinner - candle and wine- you know what I mean. NO kids invited !! Let nature take its course.

[chasingrainbows25]

Well we had our day out with the kids. It was really really good. His daughter is adorable and we got along just great, both being girls and all. He thought my son was cool.

 

Now the tricky bit. When it was time to go, he thanked us for a great day and said oh, I'm not going to see you till a week on Tues (he's off work on holiday and spending time with his girls) and I said that I hoped he had a good week. Lots more thank you's, we had a great day and then we were off home.

 

I sent a txt when I got home to say that I thought his daughter was an angel (which she was) and that I'd had a great day and that I was going to miss him next week and to take care.

 

The reply I got was that he though my son was great and that he had an oustanding day and that he definately wanted to do it again + 3 smiley faces.

 

Now does that mean he wants a day out with the kids again or that he wants to see me again "out" of work.

 

The whole day whizzed by, its like we've known each other for a long time, so comfortable, so natural, everyone got along great. Just a very comfortable feeling.

 

I think my next step is to ask him to my place for dinner but my concern is the time thats going to lapse between now and the next time I see him.

 

Oh I really really like this guy !

 

Any thoughts ?

 

CR x