borelandkaren Posted July 30, 2008 Posted July 30, 2008 Well. I think the 3 ****ty things to happen have happened, this week. Alright. Sunday I blew my car up. Monday, I got fired from my cleaning job for telling someone they are a c@nt and then had a disagreement with my housemate because he keeps bringing his skanky girlfriend over here, after myself and the other housemate have specifically asked him not to. Today I told him I was moving out in three weeks, after I confronted him and asked him where we now stood, as I knew he was angry with me. I know I should probably pull my head in but I don't feel like I should have to. There is no-one who will react to me speaking my mind, like Tony would have and the fact is, that, I am allowed to say my piece. The things I had to accept when I was with Tony are not the things I have to accept now. And so, if it sh@ts me, I won't! PS People who are in the wrong do not like to be confrontd about it. Funny thing that!
Nevermind Posted July 30, 2008 Posted July 30, 2008 Wow, you had a tough week. Are you okay at the job front? Is there something else you can do right away? I agree that we need to take care of ourselves, and set boundaries. But we should be wary of how we deal with people. Sometimes we might be harsher than needs be, because a situation reminds us of our exes. I am sure you will pull through this, like you always do. You're a fighter!
Author borelandkaren Posted July 30, 2008 Author Posted July 30, 2008 Wow, you had a tough week. Are you okay at the job front? Is there something else you can do right away? I agree that we need to take care of ourselves, and set boundaries. But we should be wary of how we deal with people. Sometimes we might be harsher than needs be, because a situation reminds us of our exes. I am sure you will pull through this, like you always do. You're a fighter! Yeah, darl. I'm fine. I know what you're saying but I've gone past the point where I feel like I want to deal with people in a wishy washy manner. My psychologist did tell me that I don't have to kill a mouse with a sledgehammer but as you can see, it didn't work!!! Stuff it! I've had enough with having to treat people that I don't have any respect for, as tho I do. If they don't like what I have to say, don't put themselves into the position where they have to hear it. My other housemate and I have been very specific about the fact that we don't want the girlfriend here. She behaved toward us both in a really disrespectful manner and the fact that we pay 2/3s of the rent, gives us the majority power in the house. She is not welcome here. Too bad if they don't like it. And as for my work, yeah, I'm cool. I've got plenty of work on thru the day and other irons in the fire, so I'm not too overly concerned with where my next dollar is going to come from. Fighter!! You're damn right I am and will continue to be so, as long as I feel that there is an injustice. I understand that I am also at fault for certain things that happen. The biggest problem for most people is that I'm very honest and very confrontational if and when needed. I do not back down if I feel I am right. If I am wrong, I am the first person to admit it and will apologise with the feeling that is warranted. I'm sorry but I can't lie. I was put into too many compromising positions when I was with Tony and feel like I now have to "start as I mean to go on". What this is doing is pulling the weeds. We don't need weeds. I'm a garden that is starting to grow and I will not allow the weeds to overtake me. If I upset people along the way, well, that's how it is.
sedgwick Posted July 30, 2008 Posted July 30, 2008 Damn, what a week you've had! You need bunnies!! :bunny:
Author borelandkaren Posted July 30, 2008 Author Posted July 30, 2008 Damn, what a week you've had! You need bunnies!! :bunny: U guys know what? Six months ago, I would have freaked out, gone into melt down, buried my head in the sand and denied everything was my fault. Now, I'm embracing EVERYTHING, taking it on board and saying, "OK, where to from here?" I actually find it all rather amusing and I'm not terribly bothered by it. The cleaning job was over for me. It was only ever an interim thing, the car (my fault!) and the flatmate, well u guys know I haven't been happy in my living arrangements for some time, so anything that is a catalyst for change is a good thing. I've allowed myself to settle into the house where I am, knowing that things are still not quite right and become a bit complacent. No more of that!! Life has a way of telling you you need change and it has certainly done that this week.
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