MarisaCraig Posted July 30, 2008 Posted July 30, 2008 So I met this guy who works at a coffee shop on Friday! He was really flirting with me, asking my name and telling me his while he was making my drink! He kept staring at me while I was studying at the table near the counter and smiling. He finished up his shift and left to go home. Then about 5 minutes later, he came back, got in line to order a drink like a customer, kept looking at me, and then walked over to my table and asked for my #! He was so nervous!!!!! I think he came back to ask for my number! He said he was new to the city and wanted to catch a movie. He didn't have his phone on him so he had gone back to the back room before approaching me with a post it and a pencil and I wrote down my #. I asked him for his too since I tend to put #s into my phone to know who calls - I use my phone for both business purposes and social purposes so I get a lot of telemarketers! It's the equivalent of giving your # to someone, they program it into their cell phone, and then call you right there so it is programmed into yours. So he wrote down his # and told me he was going to give me a ring! Well, I haven't heard back, so my friend tells me to call him! I decide to do it thinking what the heck! Wrong move right?! Well, his number is DISCONNECTED or NOT A WORKING NUMBER!!!!! WTF! Did he give me a fake number?! Why would he walk all the way back, was so nervous approaching me, shaking, and then giving me a wrong number! Was he just nervous and wrote it wrong?! That coupled with the fact that he hasn't called me is suspect right? What do y'all think?! It's not like I ASKED him out or anything, and he had seen me up really close at the counter so it's not like he wasn't attracted as he got closer or anything! Just weird!
Prodigal Princess Posted July 30, 2008 Posted July 30, 2008 Unless you do end up seeing him again, you'll never know the answer to this one. I doubt he deliberately gave you a fake number, but he could have gotten his own number wrong through nerves. I actually gave a guy I met on the weekend a wrong number because I blanked on the last 2 digits. I've had the same number for 6 years. I'm sure he thinks I screwed him but it was an honest mistake (although I have copious amounts of alcohol to blame). Are you sure you punched the right number into your phone? Most guys I know have shocking handwriting; the "6" he wrote may have been a "0" etc. Anyway, I hope this mystery gets solved for you. But in the meantime I wouldn't wait to hear from him.
Author MarisaCraig Posted July 30, 2008 Author Posted July 30, 2008 Unless you do end up seeing him again, you'll never know the answer to this one. I doubt he deliberately gave you a fake number, but he could have gotten his own number wrong through nerves. I actually gave a guy I met on the weekend a wrong number because I blanked on the last 2 digits. I've had the same number for 6 years. I'm sure he thinks I screwed him but it was an honest mistake (although I have copious amounts of alcohol to blame). Are you sure you punched the right number into your phone? Most guys I know have shocking handwriting; the "6" he wrote may have been a "0" etc. Anyway, I hope this mystery gets solved for you. But in the meantime I wouldn't wait to hear from him. Well, I can see him again if I choose, I know where he works and I'm an everyday customer there! Now this is going to be awkward too! As for punching the #, he said he didn't have his phone on him so had me write mine on a post it and he WROTE his on the same post it. I dialed straight from what he wrote and yes, I did dial the right #! Yes, I'm not holding my breath on this one, but I am curious as to what the truth is.
bigmanpayne Posted July 30, 2008 Posted July 30, 2008 you said he worked at a coffee shop, maybe he gave you the right number and just didn't pay his bill?
Author MarisaCraig Posted July 30, 2008 Author Posted July 30, 2008 you said he worked at a coffee shop, maybe he gave you the right number and just didn't pay his bill? Never thought about that! Hmm....plausible! Aaawww....if that's the case, poor guy!
silvergirl Posted July 30, 2008 Posted July 30, 2008 If your a daily customer, then you should see him today or tomorrow correct? I would judge by his reaction then if he gave you the wrong number on purpose.
Author MarisaCraig Posted July 30, 2008 Author Posted July 30, 2008 If your a daily customer, then you should see him today or tomorrow correct? I would judge by his reaction then if he gave you the wrong number on purpose. Should I bring it up that I called him or say something like, "Was looking forward to hearing from you?" or just gauge whether he looks embarrassed and trying to avoid me!? The whole sitch is weird!
silvergirl Posted July 30, 2008 Posted July 30, 2008 I would see how he's acting first, if he seems to be trying to avoid you, then I would definitely leave it alone. If not and he's all in to you like before, then I would mention it. I would tell him you tried to call, and the number was no good, and you wanted to make sure you put it in your phone right. Either way, good luck!
Author MarisaCraig Posted August 2, 2008 Author Posted August 2, 2008 Well..........what happened????? So I came back to the store and he was all friendly saying, "Oh, I've been super busy working, but if it's alright with you, I'll call you soon - so excited about hanging out!" Because he said that, I didn't want to discuss the wrong number issue, so I didn't mention it. Well, on Thursday I came by and saw him leaving his shift, and he didn't see me, but waiting for him was some girl who LOOKED to be his GF! Yes, he has an effin girlfriend! So likely he DID give me a wrong number so I wouldn't be contacting him, and then he would have my # to decided if he wanted to contact me or not, or he never intended to, but just did it for his ego - to know he could still get chick's numbers! Wow, the dude is tacky! Didn't he think he'd have to see me almost everyday and that his retarded attitude would be so blatant? So should I be a mature adult and drop it and continue on going to the coffee shop, since he and I have absolutely nothing, or give this lil **** some hell by confronting him about it and making his squirm behind the counter?
whichwayisup Posted August 2, 2008 Posted August 2, 2008 Drop it and forget it. Be the mature one and move on. IF you chase after him and give him crap, you'll just be making a fool of yourself. You barely know this guy so therefore you don't have much invested in him. This is what one calls an ego hurt...So, because of that, it's best to move on.
porter218 Posted August 2, 2008 Posted August 2, 2008 Just be cold to him next time you have to see him. Act like you never had a conversation with him before. If he tries to address the issue, tell him you don't know what he is talking about. Drop it and forget about him forever.
Author MarisaCraig Posted August 2, 2008 Author Posted August 2, 2008 Just be cold to him next time you have to see him. Act like you never had a conversation with him before. If he tries to address the issue, tell him you don't know what he is talking about. Drop it and forget about him forever. Yes, love this advice! This is exactly what I'm going to do. Tell him I don't know what he's talking about, love it!!! You are absolutely correct, I am forgetting him forever. Just feels good knowing that it hadn't gone anywhere because it would've been worse if he did call and we went on a couple of dates before finding out he has a GF! Now that would have been bad! WhichWayIsUp: You're absolutely correct! Giving him crap would mean I cared and that is just giving him WAY too much credit! Yes, my ego is slightly bruised, not even bruised, but slightly tapped, but I have absolutely nothing invested so it'll be easy to drop it!
silvergirl Posted August 2, 2008 Posted August 2, 2008 What a douche. Definitely continue going to the shop, and ignore his butt. Never let him know you know about the girl, and NEVER let it show IF it bothers you, which I'm sure it doesn't. If he mentions the number or calling, I would tell him, you know what, something better has come up, I think you might better lose my number.....TOOTLES!!!!
EYECANDY000 Posted August 2, 2008 Posted August 2, 2008 Dont give this guy an ounce of your energy. Screw him!
D-Lish Posted August 2, 2008 Posted August 2, 2008 What a jerk! I agree with the advice of just playing it cool and pretending nothing ever transpired. If you give him the cold shoulder... that also indicates you care. So just play the aloof angle.
Author MarisaCraig Posted August 3, 2008 Author Posted August 3, 2008 What a douche. Definitely continue going to the shop, and ignore his butt. Never let him know you know about the girl, and NEVER let it show IF it bothers you, which I'm sure it doesn't. If he mentions the number or calling, I would tell him, you know what, something better has come up, I think you might better lose my number.....TOOTLES!!!! Oh, yeah, he'll never know that I know! And I'm never going to tell him! It's also easy to do since it doesn't even bother me as I have nothing invested in this douche! I like the line of "something better has come up, I think you might better lose my number"! I'll definitely see him this Monday before work or during lunch break!
porter218 Posted August 3, 2008 Posted August 3, 2008 If he ever asks you for your # again if he lost it, you should try giving him this # 760-481-3098. He will get the picture.lol. These #s really come in handy sometimes.
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