kchiapet95 Posted July 30, 2008 Posted July 30, 2008 Some of you may remember me, some of you may not. I used to post quite a bit when in the throes of an affair. And now, after breaking up in December... I haven't heard from xMM and I haven't looked back. I've continued my therapy to try and deal with the fallout from this. I plan on enrolling in college in a few weeks to make more out of my life. The company we worked for is downsizing big time, and as far as I know, he's still there. But he doesn't matter, and my life is on the upswing. I know this experience has made me a stronger, better person. I lost the people in my life that needed to get lost, and the ones that stuck around, well, they are my true friends and I will cherish them forever. And I even gained some wonderful friends here (especially TogetherForever, Kasan, Marlena, Bentnotbroken, WhiteFlower, GreenEyedLady...never forget the support you guys provided). There are times when I find myself sad because of all I went through, but all in all I am healing nicely. To those who've just started posting, maybe you're lurking and you're afraid to talk for fear of being judged...don't feel that way. Hold your head up high. Stay strong. You need somewhere to go for support, and there are people here who will try to tear you down but there are also supportive people. If your relationship ends, there's hope on the other side though you may feel like there isn't. And if your relationship lasts, there are people in that situation too that can and will help you.
wildsoul Posted July 30, 2008 Posted July 30, 2008 I'm new here, but not new to forums in general. It's so great that you came back to check in and give a glimpse into the other side! It's human nature to post when in pain, then forget to share the good results. BTW, one of my main reasons for joining was to "scare myself straight." No insult meant to anyone here. But after reading post after post of people suffering (sometimes for many years) because of their dead end affair, I started to get the pink clouds out of my head. But I also want to hear about what happens to those on the other side! So thank you. Thank you. Sounds like you're rebuilding yourself very well!
NoIDidn't Posted July 30, 2008 Posted July 30, 2008 I remember you, kchia. It so good to hear from you and that you are doing well. I know that you will continue to do well. Thanks for the update.
Author kchiapet95 Posted July 30, 2008 Author Posted July 30, 2008 Wildsoul, I read your post and the beginning part of your story is similar to mine. I knew he was married, but I also knew they were very unhappy and so when he told me, "We live separate lives and she knows I date, we are only staying together until XXX time," I truly believed it. Call me naive. I believed it right up until the minute she called me. I got a wakeup call. I got several wake up calls. And I got smart. And when it comes to relationships, I'm not taking crap from any man, let alone a married one! I'm still learning, I slip up, but I don't take what a man tells me at face value anymore...I look at his actions and I speak up for myself if I don't like what's happening. That's the biggest lesson I took away, and I hope you do too. Speak up, stand up for yourself. Don't let anyone walk all over you or make their happiness more important than yours. You do not have to accept bad behavior. If he's treating you wrong, kick his sorry butt to the curb.
GreenEyedLady Posted July 30, 2008 Posted July 30, 2008 (((KCHIAPET))) I'm glad to hear that you are healing! You sound so strong and I am SOOOO proud of you! (((HUGS))) GEL
Lyssa Posted July 30, 2008 Posted July 30, 2008 Hey Kchia - I'm happy that you're healing well. You're not alone and anytime you need to talk - some of us here will always be here for you! Stay strong!!
Meaplus3 Posted July 30, 2008 Posted July 30, 2008 Some of you may remember me, some of you may not. I used to post quite a bit when in the throes of an affair. And now, after breaking up in December... I haven't heard from xMM and I haven't looked back. I've continued my therapy to try and deal with the fallout from this. I plan on enrolling in college in a few weeks to make more out of my life. The company we worked for is downsizing big time, and as far as I know, he's still there. But he doesn't matter, and my life is on the upswing. I know this experience has made me a stronger, better person. I lost the people in my life that needed to get lost, and the ones that stuck around, well, they are my true friends and I will cherish them forever. And I even gained some wonderful friends here (especially TogetherForever, Kasan, Marlena, Bentnotbroken, WhiteFlower, GreenEyedLady...never forget the support you guys provided). There are times when I find myself sad because of all I went through, but all in all I am healing nicely. To those who've just started posting, maybe you're lurking and you're afraid to talk for fear of being judged...don't feel that way. Hold your head up high. Stay strong. You need somewhere to go for support, and there are people here who will try to tear you down but there are also supportive people. If your relationship ends, there's hope on the other side though you may feel like there isn't. And if your relationship lasts, there are people in that situation too that can and will help you. I do remember your posts.. and I'm so very glad to hear that your doing well. I remember what it felt like a year after my ea wa over with xmm.. it was a feeling of "freedom".. and beign able to enjoy life again. I'm so happy for you. Best wishes. AP:)
bentnotbroken Posted July 30, 2008 Posted July 30, 2008 I remember you. I often wondered how things were progressing with you. I knew you would make it. Our talks were always a blessing to me. God is blessing you. Stay strong and focused.
Kasan Posted July 30, 2008 Posted July 30, 2008 Ah sweetie, I am so glad that you posted on how you were doing. I have thought about you often and I am so glad that you are taking the steps to move on with your life. Your story is such a wonderful example of someone who actively goes out and picks up the pieces of their life. I always knew that you were stronger than you thought. I am really proud of you too, as I know how hard things were for you. :love:K
Dark-N-Romantic Posted July 30, 2008 Posted July 30, 2008 Congratulations on your healing and recovery and better blessings to your future goals and plans. I wish there were more women like you who are out there to show men and women that it is never too late to stop things, get on the right path, and go on for bigger and better things. They need more people like you to show them they can and deserve happiness despite whatever they have done. And always have trust and faith in that you DO deserve the best. DNR
marlena Posted July 30, 2008 Posted July 30, 2008 You're not alone and anytime you need to talk - some of us here will always be here for you! So, so happy that you are on your feet again, strong and positive. Like Lyssa said, we are always here for you, good times or bad. Stay well, my sweet.
Author kchiapet95 Posted July 30, 2008 Author Posted July 30, 2008 I feel like crying! You guys are great. When I couldn't talk to anyone else...you all were there. Thanks to everyone for the well wishes.
bentnotbroken Posted July 30, 2008 Posted July 30, 2008 You've done enough crying, walk into your blessings with a smile. Don't let the chains of the past hold you back. Go get em girl.
TogetherForever Posted July 31, 2008 Posted July 31, 2008 :bunny:Props to you Kchiapet!!!!!!! So nice to hear from you & to see you're doing well. TF
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