KinAZ Posted July 30, 2008 Posted July 30, 2008 To put this in simple terms, I tend to be a little too nice to nice guys. The creepy guys who hit on me, I have no problem shooting them down. But, when a guy is actually a nice guy, a gentleman, it's really hard to brush him off even if I'm not really attracted to him. It's not so easy to lie or give a sarcastic response. There's a part of me that thinks "He's a nice guy, maybe you should give him a chance." The problem is that I've done this in the past and my interest never managed to catch up with that of the particular guy. So, I've given this guy my cell... last night... and he's called me 3 times tonight already, and left two messages... over the course of 2 hours. (The first 2 times my cell was off, the 3rd time was just as I was typing this...) Last night, he was talking about some restaurant with really good food, and I was considering making a date of it... just to see. This third call is making me think twice, but I think I need a little general advice here. I don't think there's anything wrong with two people enjoying one another's company, but there comes a "danger" when one person is very interested and the other is not. So, I need opinions... what is the nicer thing to do? Give a guy a shot, even though you know you're not romantically interested at the moment, but think you might enjoy hanging out with him? Or, send him on his merry way? If you were "that guy" what would you want a girl to do?
lovestruck818 Posted July 30, 2008 Posted July 30, 2008 To put this in simple terms, I tend to be a little too nice to nice guys. The creepy guys who hit on me, I have no problem shooting them down. But, when a guy is actually a nice guy, a gentleman, it's really hard to brush him off even if I'm not really attracted to him. It's not so easy to lie or give a sarcastic response. There's a part of me that thinks "He's a nice guy, maybe you should give him a chance." The problem is that I've done this in the past and my interest never managed to catch up with that of the particular guy. So, I've given this guy my cell... last night... and he's called me 3 times tonight already, and left two messages... over the course of 2 hours. (The first 2 times my cell was off, the 3rd time was just as I was typing this...) Last night, he was talking about some restaurant with really good food, and I was considering making a date of it... just to see. This third call is making me think twice, but I think I need a little general advice here. I don't think there's anything wrong with two people enjoying one another's company, but there comes a "danger" when one person is very interested and the other is not. So, I need opinions... what is the nicer thing to do? Give a guy a shot, even though you know you're not romantically interested at the moment, but think you might enjoy hanging out with him? Or, send him on his merry way? If you were "that guy" what would you want a girl to do? I think it's cute that he is very interested. It means he is excited! Give the poor guy a chance.
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