Putting everything on the "table"

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So I've been on about 3 dates with this girl over a span of 2 months. Our last date was amazing; she told me that she always thought I was amazingly cute and was shocked when I first asked her out. Our date ended with a long make out session at her car complete with moan's and her asking me what took me so long to kiss her. There would have been more dates but we both have busy schedules, esp her. I asked her out for another dinner at a restaurant that a friend of mine is opening and she said she would love to go.

 

However this past weekend she had a graduation party and invited myself and her best friend (she works with both of us). Me and her best friend couldn't show up until midnight or so, and when we got there the party was basically done. No one left except her 2 sisters, her brother, a guy friend of hers and her neighbor.

 

We start drinking and having a good time and talking and then I start to see that this "guy" friend seems a little suspect. They've only known each other for a month or so, but he's a hockey player and she loves hockey players and loves hockey.

 

Anyway, we go outside to play some shoes and the girl I'm seeing and the guy team up to play against me and her best friend. They kill us in shoes and then she says she needs to go to sleep because she's got to go to church the next morning super early.

 

Me, her best friend and the "guy" continue to play shoes, and while we're playing I do something stupid. I ask the best friend what he thinks is going on with this "guy." And then it starts. Her best friend starts putting things in my head, such as she isn't looking for a real relationship right now, that this other guy is already friends and in with the family, just all these negative thoughts. At this point I get pissed off and her best friend knows it and can see it in my face.

 

He and I drive home and he keeps saying I look really pissed off, and i tell him that I feel like I've been played.

 

So the next day, they both work together and I guess he tells her that I was mad and I'm sure maybe makes up some other crap. I"m not really sure what he said to her. But I'm out drinking with friends and she calls about 5 mins after she gets off work. I don't answer because I'm too drunk. She leaves a VM asking me to give her a call sometime during the week or before I head out of town if I haven't already. She goes on to thank me for coming and apologizes for the party being so dead when I showed up.

 

I don't call back, but the next day she sends me a late night text asking me if I'm still awake. I reply that I am. She doesn't reply, and about 30 mins go by. I finally send her a text saying I need to get up early and I can give her a call tomorrow. She instantly replies, can we talk now for a sec.

 

So I call her. we start off with some small talk and she asks how I'm doing and then she asks what happened the other night? She goes on to tell me that she was totally blind sided that I would get pissed off and that she doesn't want me to be mad. That somewhere there has been a miss communication or misinformation and adds that we need to put everything on the table and see where we both stand.

 

I ask her if she wants to talk about it over the phone and she said would rather do it face to face so we both agreed to meet up tomorrow. We continue the phone conversation with just small talk about her house sitting and such. And then we say our goodnights and she says sweet dreams....

 

Now, I'm not sure what was said between her and her best friend the next day at the party, and I'm not sure if what he said to me the night of the party was true at all....so I'm not really sure what to think?!

 

I mean why would she want to meet face to face if she was going to tell me that she was seeing this other guy or that she wasn't looking for any real relationship. she could have very easily said that on the phone....we talked for a good 20 mins about the same thing...that there was a real miscommunication.

 

I guess all I can do is just tell her what's up, and put it all out there? Right? I know for a fact that I can't include anything that was said to me by the best friend the night of the party...or include him at all. I don't want this too look like she needs to take sides or go back and forth and confirm what was really said....I just need to tell her what I want? Right?

 

She's a killer girl, so I figure I should maybe take the risk....?

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So she called last night, late, telling me that she had some bad news. Her schedule got changed up last second and that she can only "hang out" between 4-8. I'm working until 6, so we'll see.....