Does she like me???

[SlightlyMad]

First of all, forgive me for being naive or just plain idiotic for my following comments. Anywho, I am curious to see if this girl I work with likes me or is just being playful and or maybe being a tease. She does the following:

 

 

• Talks and talks and talks and talks and talks to me relentlessly about anything and everything
  
• Laughs at my corny jokes that even I know aren't funny
  
• Has this strange suggestive look on her face. The easiest way to describe it, almost playing coy, where she covers her face only to reveal it again.
  
• Has peculiar body language around me, goes out of her way to touch me. Constantly emphasizes (rubbing) her thighs and dangles her feet around me
  
• Likes to tell everyone that she is my fiance (Joking of course)
  
• Follows me all the time
  
• Purposely does suggestive things around me, bending over whilst wearing a low cut shirt
  
• Went out of her way to buy me something at the slightest hint that i might like it
  

 

Now, I know you are all thinking: HELLO?!?!? MCFLY?!?!?! Of course she likes you!!! I'm just not sure because she used to speak of her ex on a constant basis, but not so much anymore...We exchanged phone numbers awhile back, but never actually had a conversation outside of work. I texted her a happy birthday wish, but thats about it. I think she is pretty cute, but a problem lies with some of my friends. I know for a fact, that a lot of them don't like her for reasons unknown to me. Not that it bothers me too much, but for arguments sake, if we were dating, I think it would be best that a lot of people at work didn't know for the simple fact, a lot of people don't care for her work ethic which I don't think that should be a determinant of ones' character. Sooo...for all those out there? Is she sending me subtle hints and is merely waiting for me to make my move?!?! Or is she just being playful? Any help is much appreciated.

[carhill]

Look beyond the inappropriate sexual behavior to see what kind of person she is. You mentioned her work ethic. Family and friends would be another area to gauge.

 

IMO, she might be using sex (or the suggestion of such) to get you to like her. She probably has some other issues she's dealing with as well.

 

I'd suggest proceeding carefully....

[BklynGuy]

Yep, proceed with caution. I've had plenty of coworkers who use these tactics. She may just want attention from you, and once she gets it, will throw you to the curb. Again, and I've learned this from life experience, NEVER GET WITH A COWORKER. All of your business becomes gossip.

 

Usually, when everyone suspects or is suspicious of another person, THERE"S A DAMN GOOD REASON! Find out who SHE is before putting energy forth. BE SURE before you pursue her.

[sauncie12]

She likes you. I'm pretty sure because I do the same things when I like a guy...to test the waters. However - I think the responses are right on - you need to be careful. What will work be like if you break up six months from now? What if its a bad break up, is she going to be psycho? Did she have a disasterous breakup with her ex (think about how she used to talk about him)? She is probably feeling low self-esteem and your attentions are helping her cope and helping her ego.

Suggestions: Try going to lunch or out for coffee for the next few months and see what happens. Get to really know her and then you will have the opportunity to ask things like whether she has ever dated anyone she's worked with before - or what she might be looking for. Maybe even work up to the point where you can ask her outright about whether she would want to date you and if so how you would handle the work aspect. I have seen disasters but I also know a couple that worked together and dated in secret for four years before one of them found another job and they married. See how honest you think she is about things before you give romance a go! Good Luck!!