maynicholas Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 So new guy is on vacation. We met on the 14th and hung out on the 15th. We hit it off right away. I actually slept with him the first night we hung out (mind you it was a marathon 'hang out' session). I have NEVER done that in my life. But it just worked on all levels for us. I never knew what chemistry meant till him. Anyway... He went on vacation 1.5 weeks into whatever this is. I trusted that I would hear from him. And I did! I knew from the start that he was going out of town. I wanted to text him, but my bff said not to- so I didn't. Well have no fear! He did it on his own! This is a good sign right?
whichwayisup Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 Yes it is. And, if you feel like texting him, do it. Don't wait for him to always get ahold of you first. He needs to know that you're just as interested in him now..
Author maynicholas Posted July 29, 2008 Author Posted July 29, 2008 We have been texting back and forth for hours....
whichwayisup Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 When he comes back, I suggest slow it down abit and get to know eachother. Doesn't mean you can't fool around and stuff, but don't hop in the sack and make this all about sex. Take your time and have fun, don't rush.
Author maynicholas Posted July 29, 2008 Author Posted July 29, 2008 I don't want to slow it down. I have needs.
bigmanpayne Posted July 30, 2008 Posted July 30, 2008 well if you dont slow it down, your needs will be fulfilled in the short run, but definately not in the long run.
Author maynicholas Posted July 30, 2008 Author Posted July 30, 2008 I don't get that... He is as much of a dirt bag as I am.. I think that is why I am so smitten. I have never met a man who can play the dirty game as well as I can. We hung out with one of his friends and he gushed about me. We just got off the phone. I don't even know why I am asking. For the first time in my life I really have no question. I know he likes me. But I am scared. I really like him.
bigmanpayne Posted July 30, 2008 Posted July 30, 2008 I don't get that... He is as much of a dirt bag as I am.. I think that is why I am so smitten. I have never met a man who can play the dirty game as well as I can. We hung out with one of his friends and he gushed about me. We just got off the phone. I don't even know why I am asking. For the first time in my life I really have no question. I know he likes me. But I am scared. I really like him. well if you really like him then slow the heck down. you are not going to agree with me so i am wasting my fingers typing. you will only see what i am talking about after this relationship is over.
Author maynicholas Posted July 30, 2008 Author Posted July 30, 2008 Ok- I'll listen... how do we slow down?
bigmanpayne Posted July 30, 2008 Posted July 30, 2008 Ok- I'll listen... how do we slow down? chill out on the sex the next time you see him. sex is only a small part of a relationship and i am guessing that you actually want a relationship with him right?
Author maynicholas Posted July 30, 2008 Author Posted July 30, 2008 Well the last 2 times we hung out we couldn't have sex because of mother nature.
lovestruck818 Posted July 30, 2008 Posted July 30, 2008 chill out on the sex the next time you see him. sex is only a small part of a relationship and i am guessing that you actually want a relationship with him right? Alot of men wont want to be in a relationship with a girl who sleeps with them on the first date...
bigmanpayne Posted July 30, 2008 Posted July 30, 2008 Well the last 2 times we hung out we couldn't have sex because of mother nature. good. but you would have if you could have. thats no good. if a girl is like that with me, i never think "wow, she is great i want something special with her" i only think "wow, she is great - we can do it every time i see her." sex doesnt last forever. if that is all that you have between you that relationship will never last. you have to have faith in yourself. you dont want the sex to be the thing he looks forward to when seeing you.
Author maynicholas Posted July 30, 2008 Author Posted July 30, 2008 you dont want the sex to be the thing he looks forward to when seeing you. good point. thank you. It is difficult because this is the first time in years that I am enjoying sex. With my ex it was a chore. I thought there was something wrong with me- but alas- not so!
bigmanpayne Posted July 30, 2008 Posted July 30, 2008 good point. thank you. It is difficult because this is the first time in years that I am enjoying sex. With my ex it was a chore. I thought there was something wrong with me- but alas- not so! fight it as hard as you can. it will work out better for you in the long run. if you really like him you can wait a minute. i am not telling you to wait forever, just try to get to know each other more i guess.
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