Isis1808 Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 ... sour soon.... My BF and i are going thru a very rough patch in our relationship right now. There are times when its hard for me to even look at him, let alone talk to him. So obviously, we're also having communication problems. I really love him and i dont want to lose him but i think that thats how its going to end. Its very hard for him to forgive me for talking to my ex, and thats really bothering me b/c when he does it i forgive him and i dont take it to this extreme. He says that the longer it takes me to remember the convo (which is very insignificant to me) the more numb he'll become to me and the relationship. That tells me that hes going to start being nonchalant, cold and wont care after a while, which really hurts. Then to make things worse he rejected my hug b/c he said that it was a dry hump hug in church and in front of elders. Which its not true i would never disrespect the church or the elders and do something like that. It was an innocent hug, i just wanted to hug him to tell him that i still loved him despite all our problems. In my opinion i think it was b/c his ex was standing right in front of us and he didnt want to hug me in front of her. When i told him this he said that he thinks i went to hug him to get a reacton out of him in front of his ex being that he kept eyeing her the whole night. It really hurts that he thinks that iam that type of person. I dont understand. I need some advice on how to talk to him and feel comfortable about it without getting upset. I also know that i have some insecurities that are lingering and playing a role in all this, but hes not doing anything to prove my insecurities wrong, hes actually doing the opposite.
Walk Posted July 30, 2008 Posted July 30, 2008 I think I missed a few key points in your past that lead up to this. Last post I saw from you was about how you saw flirty emails from your bf to a co-worker from last year. My very generalized, don't have all the facts, point of view... I think your bf is projecting his actions on to you. I think he's either attempting to get something going with his ex, or already has something going with her. Can you post more information about what lead up to this point. Oh, and how long have you two been dating?
Author Isis1808 Posted July 31, 2008 Author Posted July 31, 2008 We've been going out for 2 years now. Well we have been going thru ups and downs here and there, about him lying to me about flirting with someone i worked with, about communicating with his ex and things that happen with our son. I went to visit my mom in Vegas and he said that i fowarded him the convo i had with my ex ( i know i was wrong for that and i aplogized), but that doesnt come up in my phone like i fowarded anything. Now he wont forgive me b/c i cant really remember all the facts about our convo (i was doing other things and taking care of the baby while talking). Its funny that you say that he might be projecting his actions on me b/c he says that thats what im doing. NOw that hes being cold with me that when the situation at the dinner rehearsal occured, which im still a lil hurt by that (which he thinks i shouldnt be). This is relly hard b/c im in love with him and he cant seem to see that whatever he does i forgive b.c i want to be with him and love him, but he cant seem to forgive me. That just makes me think that he either doesnt want to be with me anymore and is holding on to this to break up with me or he doesnt love me like i thoight he did and is just with me b/c of the baby. This is all taking a toll on my mental and emotional health.
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