ooopnut4 Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 I am 2 weeks into NC after being dumped after 3 years, just found out thought that she was cheating on me for a month before we broke up.( with the guy she is currently with now) And a friend of hers said the guy is fat and ugly and they dont know what the hell shes doing. Do i break no contact and confront her about this? Or am i just setting myself up again for more anger and pain?
kyta Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 Dont contact her, there is no point you will jsut set urself up for more pain, i bumped in to mine a few days back for the first time in 7 wks of nc (i think) and spoke to her all i got was lies and for the last 4 sdays i have hurt, i gained nothing from it but pain, if she cheated on you b4 then u cant change it no matter what she says to you stick to nc and move on as hard as it is.
extraordinarymachine Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 I'm so sorry you had to find that out, that must suck. I wouldn't, wouldn't, wouldn't (DANGER, DANGER!) contact her. Confronting her will be of no use except to hurt you even more. She will probably deny it all anyway, and if not, she will use this info to hurt you and make you feel inferior. I say take this as a sign that she's a loser and you're better off. I know that's hard to swallow, but take it one day at a time. I really think you're best off keeping NC in effect. Also, regardless of what the guy is or isn't like, it doesn't matter. He can be handsome or ugly, fat or skinny as a rail, but you have to remind yourself that she still chose to walk away from the relationship and break your trust with that person. What he is like is of no consequence. This issue is with HER. So don't let the "other guy" have a bearing on your confidence. People who cheat are fundamentally conducting relationships in an irresponsible way and you just so happened to get into the way of one. Chalk it up as a life lesson and move on. Don't get in touch with her.
nopainnogain Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 Absolutely agree with everyone here. DO NOT CONTACT HER,EVEN IF YOU 2 ARE THE LAST HUMANS LEFT ON THIS EARTH. Accept it is over for ever and it will never be the same.Do not entertain the thoughts of hope. Dont even think of thinking of hope . She is who she is, Selfish. Start your healing process now. And if thoughts of nastalgia,hope ,or good times creep in your dome say "**** that bit*ch, Im gonna live life to the fullest without any backstabbers."
justaman99 Posted July 30, 2008 Posted July 30, 2008 Why go after a girl that has cheated on you and/or dumped you only to be with another guy so fast? She clearly didn't give a **** about you then so why go after her now? Move on. Find someone better that doesn't cheat or bounces from guy to guy. -Just
Author ooopnut4 Posted July 30, 2008 Author Posted July 30, 2008 ok so i get home from work and there is a birthday present and a card..so i call and leave a voicemail just saying thank you, then i get a text saying even though we arent together anymore im always there for you and always proud of you WTF! why am i getting this **** now even though shes with someone else!
nopainnogain Posted July 30, 2008 Posted July 30, 2008 ok so i get home from work and there is a birthday present and a card..so i call and leave a voicemail just saying thank you, then i get a text saying even though we arent together anymore im always there for you and always proud of you WTF! why am i getting this **** now even though shes with someone else! Even more of a reason to "release " her.
Author ooopnut4 Posted July 31, 2008 Author Posted July 31, 2008 ok now i get a text last night saying "just wanted to wish u an early happy bday cuz tomorrow is gonna be crazy, but i understand if you dont want to talk. so i wrote back like an hour later "thanks lyss" i know she wanted to talk but not calling her or acknowledging her.. is that the right thing to do if i want her back?
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