dr0g0 Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 Hi, Just came across this forum, and have been reading a few threads. And thought now is the time to post my first post. As I could do with a little advice. Basically in March I recently split from my ex-partner of nearly 11 years. So as you can imagine not the best time in my life, as I really did love this woman, but theres only so much one person in the relationship can give .... I called time on the relationship, as various things about the relationship were really getting me down. To be fair, the relationship was one side and my job also was adding to the pressure .... Anyway rightly or wrongly, I joined a dating site, and met a lovely lady ... this relationship I ended a month or just after, as I knew I wasn't really over my Ex. I was totally honest and upfront with the lady, and whilst she said she understood I knew I needed to give myself time, to collect my thoughts and feelings ... Also at the time, I was buying out my ex-partner from our house, so I was dealing with everything ... relationships, re-mortgage, work, and ever day to day stresses ..... So like I said I was upfront and told this lady I wasn't ready ... We remain friends to this day, via email and the odd phone call. Moving forward, to where I am now ... I ve now met another lady, of whom has totally blown me away. Its now some 7 weeks into the relationship, and things are going great .. I am totally smitten with her, and she says the same back ... She has two children and is in the process of getting divorce ..... we tend to see each other every other day ... we seem to have a real physical connection, as like me she says she knew from first meeting me .. that she wants more .... The physical side of the relationsip is going so well, that I sometimes wonder when the bubble will burst, this is something I am struggling with, you see in my previous relationship with my long-term partner, I was told pretty much on a daily basis, that I was the only one that had issues ... So coming out of a long-term relationship, where for the past eight years .. being told almost on a daily basis that I had issues, has dented my confidence .. big time .. Now I ve met this new amazing person, of whom pushes all the right buttons, and by that I mean someone I could easily spend the rest of my life with, even marry and have a child with .. but I find myself worrying that I am not exciting enough, or even worse wondering what she sees in me .. This I know I have to stop and I do try ... As I so much want this relationship to work, so know I have to sort the issues I have in my head .... Deep down I know I need to relax and just go with it ... what will be - will be .. but its learning how to be relaxed, and be myself .. when for the last 8 years I have had to be someone I am not ... and just tow the line ... I do take a little confidence in knowing that two woman within the last six months have found me to be a nice guy ... So I guess there is hope, and I just have to come to terms .. that I am ok, and just chill and relax and take each day as it comes ....
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