I dont know how to go on right now...anyone with suggestions?

[maranda1974]

Its been a week since my husband left me for an 18 yr old girl. And he only knew her for six days before he moved into her uncles house with her and her son who is not even one yet??? I dont understand how you can walk out on six years after six days???? Now I am left to pick up the pieces which have exploded in my face. Our children are horrified by the thought that daddy isnt coming back. Our baby that will be two in Oct. had to be taken to the ER because she refuses to eat and literally lays on daddy's pillow and cries for him. They say she will probably get worse before better because he is refusing to come see her. How do you cope with this???? Please if there is anyone out there with any advice I really could use it. A week ago I was sleeping soundly next to what I thought was my wonderful husband. Now I am not sleeping at all!!!

[Angel1111]

Wow, could this guy be any more heartless??? I am so sorry this has happened to you and your kids. You must wake up every morning hoping that it was a bad dream. I don't know how you're coping. Do you have someone in your family or a friend that can come to your house and be there with you? You really need support right now.

 

I always wonder about the women on the other end of this deal. How is it that they have any admiration for a man who would do this to his family, and abandon his children and not even see them when they're so heartbroken? That part always amazes me.

 

I won't even go there about the 18 yr old thing. Not even worth talking about.

 

Oh, gosh, I am so sorry. There really are just no words....

[iwanttolive]

How about taking a break to your parents' home? Or get a few of ur friends to stay over? At least the kids will be distracted with more people surrounding them with love? And you'll have emotional support too? Just a suggestion..

[Crestfallen_KH]

Wow, I am so sorry! This is horrible...

 

Unfortunately, there are many of us like you. It's eerie how close our situations are. I'm assuming you were born in 1974 (like me) which makes you my age. My husband also left me for a younger woman that he'd only known two weeks and also went and moved in with her. We were also celebrating our sixth year of marriage. So, I have some idea of what you are going through.

 

You're going to be dealing with a lot of emotions right now. You'll be angry, sad, desperate and desolate. I strongly, strongly recommend you find a qualified therapist to help you through this.

 

I can't tell you if he'll pull his head out of his arse or not. Sometimes they do, sometimes they don't and the last thing I'd want to give you is false hope. Right now your focus has to be on your and your babies. Sleep as much as you can, and feel what you need to feel, but stay strong.

 

Please feel free to PM me if you need any help or guidance...I've been there. {{{hugs}}}

[D-Lish]

Well, I would like to ask a couple of questions...

 

A) would you take him back if he came

begging

B) Are you commited to moving on from HIM?

 

The best piece of advice I can give you in this situation is to get the ball rolling. Break your lease or sell your place and move out of the environment that reminds you daily of what you had and what you lost. Do this immediately...

 

Let's just deal with that first- because I don't know if you are seeking him back or not... (I hope you aren't).

[JustinWolf]

I feel like he deserves a punch in the face. Seriously, how could he do this. He does not deserve you, at all.

 

I know this must be really hard for you but you have to be strong for the kids and you're there for them and you've gotta let them know about that. Hold on tight. ((HUG))

 

-justinwolf

[jazzyjazz22]

Oh, my gosh, that is the most terrible thing to do to your woman and your children.

 

Pray, alot. Find comfort in what ever god u believe in. Love those kids with all your might. and i'm with the other post, move away, far away. Don't take him back. You'll never be able to trust him again. EVER. He broke your heart into a thousand pieces then stepped on it with no remorse.

 

What is up with this 80's baby. What in the F**K is she thinking????? They both need a swift kick in the A$$.

[JaneInVegas]

I'm so very sorry for your difficult situation.

 

You need to focus on those kids more than anything else. You need to be strong for them, to be the best possible mom you can be. I know that you already know that ... but it's times like these we do need to be reminded.

 

If I were in your shoes, I would get those kids out of your house ASAP. They have many, many memories of their daddy there. Of course moving isn't going to make them forget him, but at least it will minimalize the hurt. Your baby won't have a 'daddy's place' anymore to run to.

 

Good luck to you, and again, I'm so sorry for you and your children.

[Angel1111]

I know this is the hardest thing you'll probably ever endure but your children are going to pick up on your emotional state and if you can pull it together and be strong for them, they will find comfort in your strength. If you're panicking, it's going to hit them even harder and make them feel even more insecure. Assure them that you are there for them and always will be.

[sassygirl1]

Its been a week since my husband left me for an 18 yr old girl. And he only knew her for six days before he moved into her uncles house with her and her son who is not even one yet??? I dont understand how you can walk out on six years after six days???? Now I am left to pick up the pieces which have exploded in my face. Our children are horrified by the thought that daddy isnt coming back. Our baby that will be two in Oct. had to be taken to the ER because she refuses to eat and literally lays on daddy's pillow and cries for him. They say she will probably get worse before better because he is refusing to come see her. How do you cope with this???? Please if there is anyone out there with any advice I really could use it. A week ago I was sleeping soundly next to what I thought was my wonderful husband. Now I am not sleeping at all!!!

I think you should try and get him out of your system. People don't leave because of the other person that is just a myth. Maybe you guys have problems that should have been worked out. A man that would do something like that is a LOSER! YOU DESERVE BETTER!

[mma_j]

Call your friends, go to a church and speak with a pastor, seek out people so you can get it out. It's not easy holding it inside.

 

It's difficult to concentrate, but just remember that children are affected by this. You need to be strong for them so they don't see you in this state! You will get through this!