braek12 Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 Alright so background information... I am dating someone just like the redhead from wedding crashers. She fell for me FAST for no specific reason. Anyway, a week after we meet we are in the heat of things and somehow I convince myself that I feel good enough with her to be her boyfriend. So... Now I have a girlfriend who I have only known a week... THE QUESTION: Has anyone ever done this before? Does this relationship have a shot at working? we have chemistry but as we are getting to know each other there are some things I dont and do like.
Keridan Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 If you are into her at all, ride the wave and see where it takes you. I've had fun with those relationships in the past. Just be honest with her. "This is going fast. I'm on for the ride, but there are no promises." That way if you change your mind, she can't hold it against you. You can always break it off, but if you duck out now, you can't always go back. Good luck to ya!
replicator Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 The problem with the advice of 'riding the wave' is that one of the two of you will end up getting hurt. Someone will get attached. At the same time, who knows - maybe if you get to know this person more, she might be the type of person you're looking for. I have somewhat a similar situation. I met this girl who really likes me, but I just know she isn't my type but she is very attractive. I'm not over my last break up, and my self-esteem is sub zero, so it feels good to have some attention from a good looking girl, and I'm so tempted to just let myself go but I know it will be short lived because she isn't my type... Sometimes I wish I could throw my conscience out the window.
Author braek12 Posted July 29, 2008 Author Posted July 29, 2008 Yeah I really like her... but it could be infatuation. She definetly seems like she is the one more emotionally invested, but then again I have been acting more into her than I really am because I am the kinda person who needs to grow feelings for someone, Maybe she is doing the same.
nopainnogain Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 THE QUESTION: Has anyone ever done this before? Does this relationship have a shot at working? we have chemistry but as we are getting to know each other there are some things I dont and do like. My ex and I were together 6 years. Thew last 2 nothing but heart ache. Anyways,We met when she was 18 and I 21. We met at del taco.She worked there.After a week of knowing eachother we went on a date. I brought her home late and her parents kicked her out. So we started living together for 6 straight years. I wish I woulda kicked her to the curb the day I met and banged her
Lovely Disaster Posted July 29, 2008 Posted July 29, 2008 I would advise not seeing each other every day. I would limit the time you are together to a couple times a week. Do this for a while. The relationship needs time and space to "breathe" in order to develop, if this makes sense. I just started dating a guy a month ago and he lives in my same condo complex (he lives a couple buildings over...the garbage dumpster is right in front of his building. It would be easy to be popping over there and hanging out every day, but I do limit our time to 2 nights/days a week. Yesterday I happened to see him in the pool, then he invited me over to make pizza, which was a nice little coincidence.
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