No one should ever get married!!

[Staring]

Living life is a risk everyday. I could get hit by a car tomorrow, all because I crossed the road.

 

Nice attitude buddy. Keep that up, you'll be a lonely old man, in diapers, waiting to die. Alone.

 

 

calculated risks are the ones you take not random choices.

I assume in diapers was attacking my maturity well if maturity is life expipernce and the ability to apply that the precise reason I view marriage as a unfavorable risk you are just so dumb and niave you cant even comprehend that

[Staring]

Living life is a risk everyday. I could get hit by a car tomorrow, all because I crossed the road.

 

Nice attitude buddy. Keep that up, you'll be a lonely old man, in diapers, waiting to die. Alone.

 

On a side note you are in the miniority here almost 65 percent of people in my generation wont get married and as time goes on that number climbs

[Touche]

If I had to be 100 percent honest though I want to proved wrong

 

If you become a nice person then maybe you might be proven wrong.

 

You didn't need to call Which names. You misunderstood her. She was not calling into question your maturity. She just meant you'll be alone until you're old...old people wear diapers sometimes.

 

You say 65% of your generation won't get married. That sounds like a number you just pulled out of the air.

 

What's "your" generation anyway? How old are you?

 

And again, women don't go for bitter guys. You'll only draw women who aren't really very nice if you're not a nice person.

[whichwayisup]

calculated risks are the ones you take not random choices.

I assume in diapers was attacking my maturity well if maturity is life expipernce and the ability to apply that the precise reason I view marriage as a unfavorable risk you are just so dumb and niave you cant even comprehend that

 

No, the diaper comment was about being old. We'll all end up in diapers at some point later in life! That wasn't zing about being immature.

 

all the women in my family married their man for money with intent to divorce so I have no want really

 

You're not immature, you just have hang up's and insecurities from your childhood and what you've seen in your life.

 

The thing is, it doesn't have to be that way. You're letting past ghosts and past hurts ruin a potiential love interest that could turn into marriage, or a long lasting relationship. Not all women are out to get men once married to them. It's sad that you think this way..

 

Thanks for calling me dumb and naive though!

 

expipernce

 

Think you meant experience..

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If you become a nice person then maybe you might be proven wrong.

 

You didn't need to call Which names. You misunderstood her. She was not calling into question your maturity. She just meant you'll be alone until you're old...old people wear diapers sometimes.

 

You say 65% of your generation won't get married. That sounds like a number you just pulled out of the air.

 

What's "your" generation anyway? How old are you?

 

And again, women don't go for bitter guys. You'll only draw women who aren't really very nice if you're not a nice person.

 

I have the persona of incredibly nice person in real life by why wear a mask on the internet right? And that number is defintly real a lot of people are calling it a epidemic I wouldn't call it that though

[whichwayisup]

And again, women don't go for bitter guys. You'll only draw women who aren't really very nice if you're not a nice person.

 

I agree. What one puts out there is what comes back into their life.

 

Ever hear of the expression, misery loves company?

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I agree. What one puts out there is what comes back into their life.

 

Ever hear of the expression, misery loves company?

 

Ya it pretty common... but you are misapplying it.

It means people in pain like other people to be as well they don't attract in a realtionship stand point

[Touche]

I have the persona of incredibly nice person in real life by why wear a mask on the internet right? And that number is defintly real a lot of people are calling it a epidemic I wouldn't call it that though

 

Nah. Not buying it. Women aren't dumb. They'll see right through you. You'll give it away. Trust me. I haf my vays of figuring out if a guy is really a good guy or not. I can't be fooled and most smart women won't be.

 

You need to really turn yourself around if you want to find a good woman. No good woman will have you as you are. You exude a very bad vibe.

 

Sorry, not buying your statistic. What's your source? And you still haven't said how old you are. I'd guess 20's right?

[Lizzie60]

50 percent end and the ones that don't aren't any good after about 10 years and...

 

Only the man takes any risks that why women are so eager to get married

 

I totally agree... and it's getting worst.. most will end in divorce..

 

It IS a waste of money for sure..

 

I don't understand why people get married.. never did .. never will.. but I have to say that it's easier in Canada if it doesn't work out..

[Staring]

Nah. Not buying it. Women aren't dumb. They'll see right through you. You'll give it away. Trust me. I haf my vays of figuring out if a guy is really a good guy or not. I can't be fooled and most smart women won't be.

 

You need to really turn yourself around if you want to find a good woman. No good woman will have you as you are. You exude a very bad vibe.

 

Sorry, not buying your statistic. What's your source? And you still haven't said how old you are. I'd guess 20's right?

 

The thing though I have been practicing my whole life and my best friends actually sister said she wanted to date me but I obviously said no

The friend knows my view he thinks I need help so i can love no one else really knows though

[whichwayisup]

So, you not only afraid of marriage, you're afraid of actually dating and taking the chance.

Everyone gets burned at times, that's how you learn, through experiences.

 

Anyway, it's your life, your choice. Be bitter, unhappy and blame women all you want. It's up to you to DO something to make yourself happy. Hey, if you're OK being alone and not dating, or allowing people close to you, all the power to ya.

 

Therapy could help if you're willing to open up and face your fears..

[Staring]

So, you not only afraid of marriage, you're afraid of actually dating and taking the chance.

Everyone gets burned at times, that's how you learn, through experiences.

 

Anyway, it's your life, your choice. Be bitter, unhappy and blame women all you want. It's up to you to DO something to make yourself happy. Hey, if you're OK being alone and not dating, or allowing people close to you, all the power to ya.

 

Therapy could help if you're willing to open up and face your fears..

 

I said no how is that getting burned... anyway I would consider happy I do what I want and I do it well

 

edit- If you dont like being attacked please stop attacking me and voice your opinion in a normal way

[Touche]

The thing though I have been practicing my whole life and my best friends actually sister said she wanted to date me but I obviously said no

The friend knows my view he thinks I need help so i can love no one else really knows though

 

What have you been practicing? How to be nice?

 

Maybe you can use some help. I mean you had very bad examples of women in your life. It's not completely your fault. What you have to realize and really believe is that not all women are that way.

 

Many women, like myself, get married so that they can have a life with their best friend. One where both parties help each other.

 

You can have that if you want it some day but you have to rid yourself of the bitterness. Realize that the women in your family don't represent ALL women.

 

Make yourself believe that you deserve better than a woman who will just use you. But you have to be able to be a good man to get a good woman. You have to rid yourself of the bitterness and keep an open mind.

 

Can you do that?

 

You wont tell me your age and that's fine but I thought that was important. If you're in your teens or 20's I think you have a chance. It can be done if you're older but it just gets harder I think.

 

You might consider getting help. But in the meantime nothing wrong with talking about it here if you can restrain from insulting people.

 

Practice being nice here. Maybe deep down you're not such a bad ass. Maybe you have a nice side that wants to come out.

[whichwayisup]

edit- If you dont like being attacked please stop attacking me and voice your opinion in a normal way

 

I didn't attack you. You're reading into this. I was just giving my opinion and honestly, you're being defensive and assuming the worst of me, biting my head off, calling me dumb and naive.

[Staring]

What have you been practicing? How to be nice?

 

Maybe you can use some help. I mean you had very bad examples of women in your life. It's not completely your fault. What you have to realize and really believe is that not all women are that way.

 

Many women, like myself, get married so that they can have a life with their best friend. One where both parties help each other.

 

You can have that if you want it some day but you have to rid yourself of the bitterness. Realize that the women in your family don't represent ALL women.

 

Make yourself believe that you deserve better than a woman who will just use you. But you have to be able to be a good man to get a good woman. You have to rid yourself of the bitterness and keep an open mind.

 

Can you do that?

 

You wont tell me your age and that's fine but I thought that was important. If you're in your teens or 20's I think you have a chance. It can be done if you're older but it just gets harder I think.

 

You might consider getting help. But in the meantime nothing wrong with talking about it here if you can restrain from insulting people.

 

Practice being nice here. Maybe deep down you're not such a bad ass. Maybe you have a nice side that wants to come out.

 

To answer question on age I in the young category you presented.

And I practice by giving and telling people what they want in a reasonable way( meaning not to over do it) I actually screw up on purpose often it helps make it very believable. On on the being nice wanting to come out maybe your right but I actaully was googling suppressed memories and this came up ( go figure) and I thought this site looked kinda fun I havent been one like it

 

edit- if you like ill tell you how to spot fakers though in practice I am perfect in my craft it needs a outlet ( nervous ticks) like biting nails or shaking hands normaly those will be your guys

[annieo]

Tschuss, staring. You remind me a little of a German romantic character I read about in "Die Lieden des jungen Werther" by Goethe (I must admit, I read it in English. Although of mostly German descent, I am functionally illiterate in that language).

 

Like the dejected persona in the book, I think you want too much of what you can't have, and then you have decided to reject it all.

 

So stew and brew in your juices and your his-story, until you have had enough of it. Then, hopefully, you will decide to fashion your own tale, your untethered future.

 

You might then see things with a different eye - or not - it makes not difference to the cosmos.

[Touche]

I think you're maybe trying too hard. Like you're playing a part. Can't you just be genuine? You really can't fake being nice for long. You are either genuinely a nice person or you're not. If you think you're mostly not then I'd try to get help with that and try to find out why you might be angry and why you have to fake being nice.

 

Why were you googling "suppressed memories?" Do you think that has something to do with any issues in your life?

 

I'm glad you're young. You have time to change and to turn your life and attitude around.

 

What confuses me though is that on one hand you say you're fine and that you're happy being alone and on the other hand you seem to want to be proven wrong that not all women are users and that maybe you'd like to have a girlfriend. Or at least date.

 

You seem to want to love someone and to have them love you. That's normal. That's good. I think you should work on yourself first though. I think you know that.

[Staring]

I think you're maybe trying too hard. Like you're playing a part. Can't you just be genuine? You really can't fake being nice for long. You are either genuinely a nice person or you're not. If you think you're mostly not then I'd try to get help with that and try to find out why you might be angry and why you have to fake being nice.

 

Why were you googling "suppressed memories?" Do you think that has something to do with any issues in your life?

 

I'm glad you're young. You have time to change and to turn your life and attitude around.

 

edit- On the confusing part I feel my want for that relationship is a great weakness and I dont like that hope that clears that up

 

What confuses me though is that on one hand you say you're fine and that you're happy being alone and on the other hand you seem to want to be proven wrong that not all women are users and that maybe you'd like to have a girlfriend. Or at least date.

 

You seem to want to love someone and to have them love you. That's normal. That's good. I think you should work on yourself first though. I think you know that.

 

The memory is of a police report I was witness a act of sex and violence and then was locked out of my house for a day and half

[Touche]

To answer question on age I in the young category you presented.

And I practice by giving and telling people what they want in a reasonable way( meaning not to over do it) I actually screw up on purpose often it helps make it very believable. On on the being nice wanting to come out maybe your right but I actaully was googling suppressed memories and this came up ( go figure) and I thought this site looked kinda fun I havent been one like it

 

edit- if you like ill tell you how to spot fakers though in practice I am perfect in my craft it needs a outlet ( nervous ticks) like biting nails or shaking hands normaly those will be your guys

 

Oops, missed that part before. No, I don't need help spotting fakers. Didn't you read what I wrote earlier? I can spot them in an instant. Most savvy and smart women can too.

 

You wouldn't be fooling some of them.

[Touche]

The memory is of a police report I was witness a act of sex and violence and then was locked out of my house for a day and half

 

Ok, well I don't know what to say to that.

 

If you're family did this to you, you may need professional help. This is serious and you may be scarred from it in a deep way.

 

I'm sorry that happened to you. Please talk to someone who has experience with this. A professional. Ok? You can get help and get past this and have a normal life without these memories.

 

Will you try that?

[Staring]

Ok, well I don't know what to say to that.

 

If you're family did this to you, you may need professional help. This is serious and you may be scarred from it in a deep way.

 

I'm sorry that happened to you. Please talk to someone who has experience with this. A professional. Ok? You can get help and get past this and have a normal life without these memories.

 

Will you try that?

 

I cant open up in real life internet is anonymous so I dont care about really

[Touche]

I cant open up in real life internet is anonymous so I dont care about really

 

But in my opinion, you may need more than what we can offer here. Just consider it.

 

In the meantime, whatever you want to open up about is fine. Maybe someone who has had similar experiences will post. Keep checking because it's late for many of us and many are not on right now.

[Staring]

I find myself being pathetic right now thats the first time I told anyone that and it over the internet

[Staring]

But in my opinion, you may need more than what we can offer here. Just consider it.

 

In the meantime, whatever you want to open up about is fine. Maybe someone who has had similar experiences will post. Keep checking because it's late for many of us and many are not on right now.

 

well why would I go to a professional wouldn't he just want to give me drugs anyway?

[annieo]

I find myself being pathetic right now thats the first time I told anyone that and it over the internet

 

There is nothing wrong with using this forum to be honest. I have, as have most of the posters here. That is why we are here in the first place.

Take back everything I said about Goethe, etc. - sorry for being glib .

You should get some help (aside from this forum - although it's a first step) to deal with your past. You have a heavy load, and you can't be expected to carry it alone.